I remember when I was 19, asking the lady who cuts my hair if my hairline was starting to recede or not. She looked closely at my scalp, and confirmed:
“Yes, it is. See how this hair right here up front is shorter than the rest? That’s how you know.”
Like someone having just heard their own death sentence, I asked, “How much time do you think I have before it starts becoming obvious that I’m gradually losing my hair?”
(Because to a 19 year-old boy, the issue seems to hold that much weight.)
I took it like a man when she told me: “I’d say about 35. You’re probably safe until you are 35 years old.”
Being just 19 at the time, I remember what a scary thought it was to imagine that if she was wrong, since my receding hairline had definitely begun, that I could be a victim of early male pattern baldness before I was even in my mid-20s.
Fifteen years have passed since that day.
I’ve made it to age 34, just 7 months away from that fateful birthday when I turn 35. My genes have been good to me.
While I won’t make it to my 50s and still have a full head of hair and a “straight across hairline” like Brad Pitt or John Stamos, or Tony Danza in his 60s, I reached my goal of making it until at least the time I got married.
With all that being said, I now realize how it didn’t even matter anyway, as this video I made explains:
Life experience has taught me that hair loss is one of those things that guys allow themselves to worry about and even become preoccupied by.
Like worrying about your height. Or your size; I’m being discreet about that, in case you’re reading between the lines.
There are companies across the world who are eager to make money off you by selling you the false hope of giving you the “cure”.
They play on your emotions related to you losing your hair, or not being tall enough, or big enough (again, I’m being discreet); they will try to scare you with “the ladies agree size really does matter.”
That’s all garbage.
Are you a man who is sincere, hard-working, creative, caring, passionate, funny, and emotionally intelligent?
Those are the things that make you attractive and respectable and cool as a man.
It’s not about that other stuff.
Just imagine how liberated your mind can become once you accept this as truth, instead of the lies you allow yourself to believe.
I wish someone would have explained this to me when I was 19.