Dear Holly: You Love the Fall Season!

6 years, 4 months.

Dear Holly,

Today is the first day of Fall- and you have been looking forward to it for weeks now!

Most mornings before school, I take you on a walk.

Nearly everyday you tell me, “Daddy, I don’t like the summer- it’s too hot and there’s too many bugs. I like the Fall and Winter the best!”

To that, I would also add how easily you can get sunburned, or at least turn pick, in the summer; as compared to being outside in the Fall.

I am already picturing you as a teenager, getting all excited about Pumpkin Spice Lattes when it turns Autumn.




Dear Jack: Your Ninja Warrior Classes

11 years, 10 months.

Dear Jack,

For over a month now, you have been going to “American Ninja” classes for an hour every Monday night.

I can confirm that is the perfect weekly activity for you. Not only are you able to burn off a lot of energy, but it also challenges you with new and exciting physical risks.

Keep in mind this sort of thing didn’t exist when I was young. But it did, I totally would have done it.

I have already noticed your newest habit of jumping off walls wherever we are now in public.

I can’t blaming you for practicing!



“I Feel Like You Want Me to Care” – Song 8 – Enneagram 6 Songwriter – Analyzing Lyrics – Themes of Belonging and Security

My 8th song is a clear example of what Counterphobic 6 looks like. Keep in mind, I published this song on January 26, 2020; still a couple of years before I even started studying Enneagram to have a clue why I would be inspired to write a song like this, which was ultimately a reflection of what I was specifically going through at the time.

This was still at the start of my own Great Awakening, where I had begun to realize I had been giving too much control over my emotions to other people; that it is always my choice to be offended or insulted by what another person says.

“I Feel Like You Want Me to Care” is my official declaration about this realization; a concept which I have continued to build on in the past few years since writing this song.

I should also point out the Enneagram 6s often struggle with believing in themselves. By me overcoming this habit of letting other people offend me or insult me, it was a major step in my learning to depend on my inner self; even if it was by being “counterphobic”:

I feel like you want me to care – I would, but there ain’t nothin’ there – I’m not offended or disrespected – I don’t expect to be treated better – Not triggered, go figure – I’m not a victim but I might be a villain – You determine where I fall on the spectrum – I don’t have a dog in the fight – I’m an accidental catcher in the rye – Your information doesn’t affect my life – I don’t have any skin in the game – My emotions and time are my own domain – I refuse to give my peace of mind away

So looking back on this song I wrote nearly 4 years ago, can you see the Enneagram 6? Can you see my longing for security and confirmation of my own existence?

Feel free to leave a comment. I’d love to hear your thoughts!

And now you can listen to the song, below, if you wish:


Dear Holly: You’re Working on Doing the Splits

6 years, 4 months.

Dear Holly,

You have taken it upon yourself to be able to do the splits. So at our house, it is a normal thing to see you practicing on the living room floor, at any given time.

The funny thing is, you recently decided to stop doing gymnastics classes.

You have moved on to hip hop dance classes instead.

But there is something appealing to you about being able to do the splits, so you continue practicing.

I will say- I am so impressed that you can do the splits so well, at a young age; not having a ton of practice or experience.

Makes you wonder how far you will get with it!



Dear Jack: You are an Enneagram 3W4 (Achiever/Invidualist)

11 years, 10 months.

Dear Jack,

Ever since becoming certified as an Enneagram coach last December, I have had trouble getting a solid reading on you.

But as of this past week, it become clear:

You are an Enneagram 3 (The Achiever) with a dominant wing 4 (The Individualist).

Mommy and I have never put pressure on you to do well in school… nor in Taekwondo, nor in building complicated Lego sets, nor helping us build furniture we order off the Internet!

Yet you constantly excel in everything you do. While Mommy and I aren’t putting this constant “pressure to succeed” on you… you do.

What convinced me was when you came home from school last week, so proud, for certifiably excelling in all your subjects at school, in last year’s standardized test.

As proud of you that Mommy and I assured you that we were of you, it was apparent you were even prouder!

But you’re not only focusing on succeeding in life, you also like to stand out; like how you recently helped purchase your own (expensive!) Nike shoes for the new school year.

For the past couple of years now, you have openly acknowledged your goal to own a Tesla. That is what you have your sights on!

And I am confident you have what it takes… with no help from Mommy or me on that.

I wanted to surprise you with a gift to make you feel special regarding your amazing test scores. So I snuck by Marshall’s and bought you a $100 Sean Jean watch that you had recently pointed out to me.

And it because it was from Marshall’s, I only paid $20.

Either way, you are undeniably smarter than me!

I have always known you are going to go far in life. And now I realize, it’s fundamentally your personality to achieve and to be a creative individual in the process!