My Wife and I Have Been Performing and Publishing Original Songs I’ve Written… Largely Due to Cancelling Netflix and as a Way to Overcome My Existential Crisis

Earlier this week I revealed the top 5 highlights of my 2019 in review: one of those is that my wife and I have been releasing songs that I have written. While I have published them on YouTube and shared them on Facebook, I have yet to really talk about the how and the why of it.

So here’s the story…

My wife and I both moved to Nashville to pursue music careers; she arrived in 2004 and I showed up in 2005. We met in 2006, starting dating in 2007, and got married in 2008.

Since then, my wife earned her Master’s Degree (2009), we had a son (2010), we become debt-free other than our mortgage (2013), we moved into a brand-new houses in the suburbs (2015), and we had a daughter (2016).

And then, my employer of 12 years shut down my branch, releasing about 40 people at the same time; giving us a 2 weeks’ severance pay and a hand shake.

For the next 6 months, while being a stay-at-home dad, I spent any free time I had on writing songs, and eventually releasing my newest song on YouTube, in 2018.

“Maybe It’s a Dream” is an autobiographical song exploring the concept of how “removed” from the human experience I felt after I started living my life with the knowledge that being offended or disrespected is always my own choice. It was me realizing how much of my time, energy, and emotions had been wasted on letting the free world affect my emotions, when it was my decision every single time.

Shortly after releasing that song, my 6 month stint as a stay-at-home dad/blogger/YouTuber ended when I gained employment at a Fortune 500 company; where I have been employed for more than a year and a half now.

That led to new inspiration for writing songs, as it ushered in my “existential crisis of 2019”.

My salary nearly doubled, putting my wife and me in a situation where we could finally start building our retirement. We are very grateful for all the help with investments, thanks to Charles Schwab.

This caused me to have to re-evaluate my identity, as I found myself at the top of Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs Pyramid; no longer triggered by the fear or anxiety of money, or even my own emotions.

Therefore, I started coming to terms with my existential crisis (some would call it a midlife crisis); as I had basically reached all of my life goals before the age of 40.

My next song, written just a couple of months ago, would be called “Tripping on Existence”; which was my way of sorting out my experience. I found that going through an existential crisis at a younger age put me in a situation where few people I knew could relate; which only intensified my feeling of floating in the universe like Tony Stark in the trailer for Avengers Endgame.

There had been other songs I had written during my 6 months of unemployment, but that didn’t get released due to me getting a job.

One was called “Fort Payne, Alabama”; another autobiographical song addressing the paradox of how my hometown undeniably helped form my identity, yet ultimately prepared me to move away after college and live my own life in the next state over in Tennessee.

So after releasing that year-and-half year old song, I decided I wanted to include my wife on my final leftover song from 2018: “We’re Gonna Leave in the Morning”.

It was a song I written, fantasizing about being able to just “up and go” on a road trip to anywhere; just she and I.

This is a fantasy because we haven’t gone on a fun road trip without the kids, since… we had kids.

I finally got to show off my wife’s singing in one of my songs. I was so proud to share her with the world.

It is truly a song about us; written from my perspective. It is my version of a love song. A love song when you’ve been married for over a decade, have 2 kids, and live in the suburbs.

During the time we were rehearsing that song, I casually wrote a song called “The Meaning of Life”. We decided to record that as well; the song was barely a week old when we published it.

The song was me exploring the irony in that none of us asked to be born, yet it is up to us to determine individually what the meaning of life is, though we have no idea how long our lives will be.

My next couple of songs, which I determined I wanted us to record on that same night; were complete opposites in mood:

The loud and upbeat “(Subtitles) I Dare You Not to Fall in Love with Me” would serve as our very first true duet together; as the autobiographical song explores what was really going through our minds on the night we met: October 5th, 2006.

Meanwhile, the somber and reflective “You Won’t Remember My Name” was written to remind the listener how the default is often to arbitrarily make perceived enemies of the people on the other side of the political fence.

The last song of 2019 that my wife and I recorded is a cover of Patty Griffin’s “Long Ride Home”; imagining the regrets of a man at his wife’s funeral, after they had been married for 40 years.

This one was special because it served as my wife’s first solo of all the songs we performed together. I simply played guitar on this one, as I wanted to only showcase her amazing ability to sing.

I currently have 3 more originals that I have been practicing; likely to be released in January 2020.

There is the somewhat novelty Country tune, “Jeep Wrangler Theme Song”, explaining the micro-culture of Jeep Wrangler owners, along with our Jeep wave.

Another loud and fun song is “I Feel Like You Want Me to Care”, which points out the power (and humor) of refusing to give emotional control to others when they are eager to take it from you.

And lastly, I have an alternative rock power ballad (?) called “Shotgun”, addressing the ridiculously dangerous risk and gamble that two young people make when they choose to marry each other, for better or worse.

My wife and I both moved to Nashville a long time ago to pursue music. Could we have been doing this all along? Maybe.

But I don’t think it could have been this genuine, this mature, or this good.

We had to live more of our lives together first. We needed more life experience first. We needed to get to the point where we were financially set so we psychologically free to create and perform in the way we can now.

Ultimately, the gate opened as a side-effect of us choosing to cancel our Netflix subscription back in May of this year. That was what created the time and space for us to focus on these songs.

Our music is what happens when Netflix is out of the picture. That’s pretty interesting, actually.

Types of Home Windows You Must Know About 

When constructing a home, windows are a significant thought. An unusual atmosphere requests specific regard for window determination. Truth be told, construction regulation requires all new development to have sway windows introduced when working inside one mile of the coast.

All windows let in light and most give ventilation, yet while choosing windows, property holders have a wide range of sorts of windows to choose from.

A few windows are simpler to open, others offer perfect wind stream, still, others are perfect for taking in beautiful perspectives. Various windows additionally have various hopes to coordinate distinctive building styles or stylistic theme. These windows require window Panes to complete their look. Here are a couple of various kinds of windows and what makes them unique.

Double-Hung windows

These types of windows can open from either the top or bottom, yet they stay inside the edge without projecting in or out. Double-hung windows are the most well-known style of windows accessible today for two basic reasons: they offer preferable ventilation over single-hung windows and are simpler to clean. Be that as it may, they are more inclined to spilling than single-hung windows in light of the fact that the band just opens one way.

Single-Hung windows

Like a double-hung window, a solitary hung window is a tall aluminum window with two separate outlines; in any case, dissimilar to double-hung windows, just the base window opens. Single-hung and double-hung windows are the most widely recognized window types. They are a famous effect window decision in light of the fact that their aluminum outlines won’t twist in the tropical atmosphere.

They have an exemplary enhancing glance and fit in well with most stylistic layout styles. Single-hung windows are a well-known decision in home redesigns in light of the fact that they will, in general, be increasingly reasonable. In any case, they generally offer less open region than casement or slider windows and can be increasingly inclined to air spillage.

Cottage Window

The Cottage sort of window is a variety of the double-hung window where the upper reserve is shorter than the lower one. Besides the littler upper reserve, the highlights and qualities of the bungalow window are fundamentally the same as the previously mentioned double-hung window. It is additionally regularly called the “front window type”.

Transom Windows

This thin window can be either working or stationary and is frequently mounted over a window or entryway to let in progressively light. They are customarily fan-molded and regularly carefully enhancing. Nonetheless, in present-day design, ventilating transoms are frequently rectangular.

Picture Windows

Picture windows also called stationary or fixed windows, picture windows are best in regions where ventilation isn’t required on the grounds that they don’t open. Fixed windows are perfect in the focal point of enormous dividers since they give adequate lighting and expansive perspectives. Picture windows are less inclined to air spillage since they don’t open, however, they are regularly less vitality productive because of their size.

Dear Jack: The Old Abandoned House and Farm, Years Before It Became the Next Nice Neighborhood

8 years, 11 months.

Dear Jack,

Part of the glory of owning a 4×4 Jeep Wrangler is that we get to explore roads most people wouldn’t be able to in their cars. Sunday after church, we drove down the barely visible path to take a look at some land that is being advertised for sale.

I had been noticing that wooded hill for the nearly 5 years we’ve lived at our house. And finally, now I know what’s out on that land that will ultimately likely be developed to become several more cookie-cutter neighborhoods.

We discovered an old abandoned farm and farmhouse; less than a half mile from the main road.

Obviously, we didn’t step foot inside the buildings: They are all on the verge of collapsing after the next gentle breeze.

But using the zoom on my camera, I was able to take a look at a magazine from 1977, as well as receipt from 1982.

In other words, the most recent proof of life at that place was a year after I was born- and I’m only a year and a half away from turning 40.

One of the strangest discoveries was what appeared to be what was left of an outhouse. It was just a small hole leading to a 10 feet deep put filled will some rainwater.

When you’re a teenager, you’ll be able to tell your friends what you saw that day, years before it all became it all was plowed over and became the next nice neighborhood.

Love,

Daddy

 

7 Best Moving Tips You Must Know

Moving is not an easy task. A lot of hurdles and tiny little things come in when you are moving your things but a lot of Moving Professionals from different industries made this task so easy that everybody can now quickly and perfectly do it by just considering some tips in their mind which can help you to convert this stressful task into an easy job.

Make an Agenda:

Begin two months before you move, and utilize a week by week agenda to keep the procedure on track. Remaining on the calendar will assist you with avoiding a minute ago issues and cerebral pains. The steady work you’ve done marking off your errands already will help make moving day a breeze.

Create a Packing System:

Thinking of a packing system is an extraordinary association strategy for your effects, and can guarantee they end up in the correct room when you moved into your new home. One technique you can utilize is shading coding with markers, for example, blue for the kitchen, and so on.

At that point, on your moving day, draw a snappy sketch of the floor plan of your new home with each room marked and hang it someplace your moving organization can without much of a stretch see it.

Sell Away the Things You Don’t need:

If you have plenty of things in your home that is not upgrading your life, or you don’t feel will be vital in your new space, dont pack it just to toss it out or stuff it into capacity someplace later. There are numerous famous mess things that are deserving of abandoning, selling in a carport deal before your turn, or simply offering them to loved ones.

Purchase Necessary Things in Advance:

Maintain a strategic distance from potential difficulties, for example, coming up short on packing tape the morning of your move by buying every one of your provisions ahead of time. At a convenient time in your moving procedure, you should begin social affair supplies, including boxes, tape, bubble wrap, and so on.

You can likewise pack with materials you officially claim including bags and plastic compartments and utilizing pads, scarves, and towels to ensure delicate things. You can also employ proficient packers, which would drop much more weight from your shoulders!

Clear the Way for Movers:

You can help make your home move out prepared for Movers by unplugging machines and light installations on the off chance that they are accompanying you to your new home. Likewise, ensuring that the way from your home to the moving truck is clear.

Clean Your New Home Before You Shift:

While your new home is unfilled, it will be a lot simpler to clean, paint or make some other enhancements you have arranged. Before you move the majority of your furnishings and boxes inside, make sure to complete an exhaustive cleaning including vacuuming, tidying, and washing the floors before specific spaces are inaccessible.

Hire Professional Movers for Your Moving:

The best thing you can do is to hire professional movers if you yourself cannot do the job then movers will get the job done for you. They will charge you a little bit, but they will cleanly and carefully provide you moving services, and you will no more need to be in stress.

Tips for Selling Your First Home

Selling a home is a lot different than buying a home. When you’re buying, there are usually plenty of emotions involved, while selling is typically focused on maximizing the home’s profit potential. 

Get it Move-In Ready

IF at all possible, do everything you can to make your home in San Diego move-in ready before putting it on the market. Make all necessary repairs even the tiniest ones like a leaky faucet, ripped window screen, broken baseboard and loose cabinet knobs. Potential buyers are going to be looking at all the little details, inside and out. Eliminate clutter and store personal items like the kids’ art work and family photos to give them a sense of what it will be like to have their own things inside. It should be sparkling clean, so if you’re not up to the task, hire a professional as it will be worth the relatively small cost in the long run. Your home will have to be in tip-top, ready-to-show condition at all times.

Hire a Top Realtor

While you might be tempted to go FSBO, or for sale by owner, you could end up losing money in the end. The National Association of Realtors reports that over 90 percent of all FSBOs fail and sellers ultimately have to turn to a realtor anyway. If they are successful, on average, they sell for quite a bit less than a home that was sold with the assistance of a real estate agent.

Of course, hiring a top agent is key for selling your home quickly and for the best price. Try to get recommendations from friends, family, co-workers, neighbors and so on. If you’re tempted to work with the realtor who helped you buy your home, keep in mind that buyer’s agents don’t necessarily make the best seller’s agents. The best agent will have lots of experience selling homes in your area, with a proven track record and be able to offer things like a comprehensive marketing plan.

Pricing Your Home

A reputable real estate agent who sells homes frequently, ideally in your neighborhood, can help ensure that your home is priced accurately. They’ll put together what’s referred to as a comparative market analysis so that it’s not priced too low or too high. A CMA analyzes active, inactive, pending and sold listings to get the most accurate information. It will provide a lower and upper price limit – if you decide to price your home at the higher end of that range, it will likely take longer to sell, but if you aren’t in a hurry to move, that can be a good way to go, particularly during a sellers’ market. If you hope to sell as quickly as possible, you may want to choose a price at the lower end of the range as you’ll get a lot more potential buyers coming to take a look.

Be as Flexible as Possible with Showings

While there’s no doubt that having strangers come through your home on a regular basis to inspect it is rather intrusive, it’s a necessary part of the selling process. Be as flexible as you can when it comes to showings, ideally leaving the house so that agents can show your home without interference.