Pornography has always been a strange concept to me. Beyond all its connections to immorality, there is one basic truth that while quite obvious, is evidently overlooked and somehow ignored by so many men across the world: It’s not real.
Those women are not actually happy to be exposing their bodies to countless men who, for a handful of reasons, choose to indulge in pornography- from buying magazines, to frequenting strip clubs, to visiting their favorite waitress at the nearest Hooter’s because they serve “really good wings there”.
And I get it. Pornographic partakers are looking for some form of an “easy” woman. They are selfish and lazy, unwilling to involve themselves in the natural and necessary steps to nurturing an actual human romantic relationship. These men will settle for a nude woman faking a smile while pretending to want sex from him.
While I usually do my best to refrain from coming across as judgmental, I’m willing to call it like it is on this one: Pornography of any kind is simply pathetic.
I can’t help but focus on the thought that “that’s somebody’s daughter you’re looking at”. It seems unnecessary to point out the familiar (and often true) stereotype that many strippers are single moms desperate to make a living. And that many women who pose for pornographic magazines were sexually abused when they were young. Not always, but often.
And despite the subconscious banner in bold Verdana font reading “SHE DOESN’T ACTUALLY WANT YOU- SHE’S JUST DOING IT FOR THE MONEY”, men continue to support the economy of prostitution in all levels- because ultimately any type of pornography is related to prostitution.
Despite the spot-on lyrics of songs like Hall and Oates’ “Maneater” and “Family Man” in 1983, as well as Phil Collins’ “Easy Lover” a year later, men continue to repeat history everyday by continuing to give in to maneaters and easy lovers. Not just at a minimal pornographic level, but all the way up to cheating on their spouse.
Because it all gets muddled up, somewhere between magazines underneath a teenage boy’s bed to a young single man going to a strip club during a bachelor party to a married man who feels trapped and unappreciated in his marriage and gives in to the first temptress to come along.
It’s all related. Just different degrees of it. There will always be maneaters and easy lovers, whether they’re in person or on paper.
If only these men had enough common sense to remind themselves: “There is a legitimate reason this strange woman is eager to jump my bones. Perhaps it’s not truly sex she wants, but is instead using sex to get something else I’m not yet aware of.”
But I guess there are a good number of men out there who don’t mind knowing that their sexual activity is forced, phony, empty, and most likely taking advantage of a woman in some way.