Until now, I always thought the idea of little girls wanting to play “tea party” was just a concept invented by toy marketers to sell more product. And for all I know, perhaps it is. But if so, hey… it works!
Because for your 2nd birthday last month, our good friends Lena and Mohamad got you a tea set, and not only did you immediately want to play with it, but you instinctively knew what to do with it!
In fact, having our tea parties together has become a bit of a ritual. Your tea party set is getting a lot of use!
I will say though, for me, you change it from tea to coffee. That’s because for the past 6 months, with me working from home, you have observed me making my organic instant coffee twice a day.
Whenever you think it’s getting near the right time of the day for it, you always ask, “Daddy, coffee?”
My favorite story so far with this tea set was a few weeks ago when I was finishing up cleaning the bathroom upstairs, as part of my weekend routine. I had been up there for a solid 15 minutes.
Then you stood at the bottom of the stairs, and announced to me, “Daddy, coffee!”
Mommy helped explain that you had just made coffee downstairs for me and you wanted me to come down and take a break.
So I gladly did.
It was one of those precious moments that I just wasn’t expecting.
In your mind, you thought, “Daddy’s been up there a while. I bet he’d like some coffee right about now. I’ll go ahead and make him some…”
You are such a sweet little girl. How can I not be completely in love with my little sweetie?
I recently made a video on my YouTube channel for Family Friendly Daddy Blog where I asked everyone for help, tongue-in-cheek, about what I should do since it is normal for parents to spank their children, yet I never have, explaining that my children are known for how well-behaved they are.
Even just this past week, my 7 year-old son was invited to go to Chili’s with another boy his age in our neighborhood. The first thing the boy’s dad told my wife and I when they returned from dinner was this:
“Your son is so well-behaved! I’m not used to that. Usually, I’m spending my time getting the boys to settle down. But I never had any issues with your son as the friend my son chose to take along! He’s great!”
And for both all of Kindergarten and 1st grade, whenever the teachers have given us feedback it’s always the same:
“He is a very well-behaved boy. And smart, too! Yes, I have to remind him not to talk to his friends during class at times, but he truly is a model student.”
As for my daughter, she just turned 2 years old, but she is also known for being a bright, yet mild-mannered little girl.
So here’s the question:
Is it just a coincidence that both of my children are known for their good behavior; and as their parents, my wife nor I have ever spanked them?
It raises the question of how necessary spanking actually is:
If what I’ve been doing as a parent has yielded a well balanced, well behaved children, what is the point of spanking them?
But if I’m not spanking my children in order to get them to behave, then what am I doing? Because, no, my kids were not just born with some magic gene where they automatically know how to behave.
And granted, they still require much teaching and direction regarding how to behave. But I provide that for them, instead of physically striking them. I accept they are still kids, too.
So I don’t freak out when my son leaves a note on the couch for his sister, with a picture of her with an “x” through it, saying, “go home away“.
The way I see it, it’s not a matter so much of disciplining my children. Instead, it’s about proactively managing their physical, social, and psychological needs.
It’s a simple 5 step program that I invented years ago. When a young child is perceived to be “misbehaving”, I recognize they don’t yet have the emotional intelligence to verbally communicate what they really need. I interpret that “misbehavior” as a predictable signal or warning to the parent that they are at least one of the following:
Hungry
Tired
Bored
Lonely
Sick
So as their parent, I am constantly prepared to feed my children, help them get to sleep, find a way for them to entertain themselves, socialize with them, or restore them to good health.
It’s true that my method isn’t the norm. Only 20% of parents worldwide are like me, in that they don’t spank their children.
I’m okay with not being normal. Especially if my kids are known for being well-behaved without having to hit them.
Here’s the question that I want to close with:
Is it a coincidence I’ve never spanked my children and yet they are known for how well behaved they are? Or am I on to something with my simple 5 step program?
For the past couple of months now in your preschool class, you and your friends have enjoyed the presence of Gus Gus, a dwarf gerbil.
Each morning when I take you into the classroom, our immediate routine is to for me to lift you up to the cage so you can ask, “Gus Gus?”
That translates as, “Are you awake yet, Gus Gus?”
The answer is usually, “Well, now I am!” as we watch the wood chips move around and see two beady eyes looking back at us.
One morning we even walked in to see a clear blue plastic roll right across the floor as we opened the door, as Gus Gus raced to the other side of the room as part of his early morning exercise.
Gus Gus finds his way into daily conversations, too. I use him as an interesting subject to help you formulate sentences.
For example, anytime you see a pick-up truck now, you point, and proudly shout, “Truck? Truck! Truck!”
So from there, I started saying, “Gus Gus drives a truck?”
You obviously liked the concept, then decided to repeat that ridiculous thought.
Now anytime you see a pick-up truck, you know what to say to me:
“Truck! Truck! Gus Gus drive truck.”
It finally occurred to me as we were playing with your toys in the living room, to bring life to the rat puppet which I originally got right before you were born, as I was planning on it being a character in your brother’s superhero series on YouTube.
You were amazed to learn was Gus Gus secretly living in our house the whole time, but also that he could talk, and even say your name.
And even when you realized that you yourself could stick your hand into Gus Gus and control his mouth, you still were every bit excited to announce, “It’s Gus Gus!”
You are really having fun these days as you are learning the art of forming short, yet complete, sentences. Over this past week especially, I have noticed you are even finding a comfort level when communicating with your family.
So now, whenever you’re hanging out and playing with your brother Jack, you love to call him by his nickname you gave him: Jackie.
“You coming, Jackie?”
“Let’s go, Jackie!”
“Hold you, Jackie?”
By the way, “hold you” is one of my favorite things you say these days.
It’s of course the result of Mommy and me asking you, “Do you want me to hold you?”, when we see you are getting tired walking outside in the cul-de-sac or at a store.
So when you want Mommy or me or pick you up, you just say, “Hold you?”
Most recently, my favorite story about you and Jack playing happened this past weekend when Mommy was working on dinner and I was working on the dishes.
You and your brother were playing, when all of the sudden, you just approached him and slapped him in the chest, declaring, “No!”
He had done nothing to earn this. He was being nice to you. It was completely random that you did that. It was so random.
But immediately, before Mommy or I could address the issue, you looked up at Jack and asked, “Hold you?”
I guess it’s just proof of how well the two of you play together.
Because Jack wasn’t upset that you hit him for no reason, anyway. But then you immediately, and softly, asked him to “hold you”, which meant you wanted him to hug you, he gladly obliged.
The logic is just hilarious to me:
Approach your brother who is being kind to you, angrily slap him in the chest while shouting “No!, then immediately and meekly ask him for a hug.
I love watching you learn to communicate and interact with other human beings.
By guest blogger Eathen Smith, as part of the sponsored Hotel Planner campaign.
Syracuse is a well-known family-friendly destination located in Upstate New York. There is so much to discover here. The accessibility of the city is perfect for families with young kids seeking conveniently located hotels near attractions and places to visit. Syracuse has a diverse cultural mix, and families describe the mix of people and general atmosphere as warm and welcoming.
Green spaces and historic architecture complement the people. Children can experience wonder, creativity, learning, and just plain fun in a hassle-free and convenient environment. Experience a taste of what Syracuse has to offer by choosing some family-friendly ways to see the city.
Something Unique for Everyone at Rosamond Gifford Zoo
Children have many opportunities to be connected to the wildlife and educational experiences offered by the Rosamond Gifford Zoo. Elephants, penguins, tigers, and all kinds of marine life will delight kids of all ages. The zoo offers birthday parties with catering, crafts, games, and admission all included.
The Rosamond Gifford Zoo also features many upcoming events such as Under the Sea Day. Ocean themed games and fun activities like a bouncing castle are all part of the fun. Conservation themed events are also held regularly during the year. Members are also offered a number of free or discounted events.
Family Friendly Festival and Events.
There are also many different festivals and events to put on the kid’s to-do list during the calendar year. Syracuse is named the City of Festivals for good reason. Family-friendly events such and the Great New York State Fair include rides, music, livestock competitions, and animals for all ages. The festival runs from the second last week of August through to early September. There are also Greek, Italian, Irish, and Scottish Festivals held yearly. A range of different kid-friendly activities and delicious foods for the whole family can be found at all the festivals mentioned.
Walking With Kid Convenience
Sensational Syracuse is responsible for the maintenance of over 1000 acres of open space including parks, swimming pools, and, ice rinks. For visitors on a tight schedule or budget, it is highly recommended to check out some of the convenient walking tours offered throughout the city.
The Onondaga Historical Association offers a map of the Syracuse Historic Walking Tour. Over 70 historical attractions are shown on the map and tours can be started or finished at any point. This is perfect for just choosing a few sights that are of interest to the children. There are plenty of hotels in Syracuse located in close proximity to the tour. Public transport or a taxi can do the rest.
Why choose Syracuse? It is easy, fun and perfect for all ages. Hotels are plentiful and can be found for every budget making it a convenient destination. It has the perfect mix of free and paid events sure to pique the interest of children of all ages. Festivals, attractions, history, green space, architecture, education, and lots of fun are all a possibility in Syracuse.
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