My Decision To Unplug From Social Media, Except On Thursday Nights (Including Facebook And My Blog)

Simply put, I’m now consolidating a week’s worth of social media activity into just a couple of hours per week; during a specific window of time, from now on…

My Decision To Unplug From Social Media, Except On Thursday Nights (Including Facebook And My Blog)

Starting 2 weeks ago, I began only publishing new posts here on Family Friendly Daddy Blog on Thursday nights.

Similarly, I am now only logging into Facebook (as well as all other forms of social media; it helps that I don’t have a smart phone) just once a week now on Thursday nights, when I publish my new posts for the week.

I’m also done paying any attention to my “home” page on Facebook, where it shows everyone’s status updates. I just don’t see how that daily exposure is enhancing my life; it only seems to complicate it.

My addiction and attention span to “keeping up” with all that stuff is apparently expired.

I guess moving into our new house has sort of… recalibrated my priorities and changed my mindset.

Ultimately, I don’t want the video game of Facebook or my hobby of blogging to interfere with the actual reality of my life with my family.

I’ve come to the realization that I no longer have to pressure myself the way I did when I was writing for Parents.com for those 3 years when I did The Dadabase.

My Decision To Unplug From Social Media, Except On Thursday Nights (Including Facebook And My Blog)

Something I’ve learned is that I ultimately get as much traffic no matter when I post new stuff, so I might as well just save it all for one day each week.

It’s similar to concept of “binge watching” premium TV shows like Breaking Bad and Man Men. Instead, I’ll be “binge posting” my new publications each Thursday night here on Family Friendly Daddy Blog.

That way I don’t have to be constantly preoccupied with publishing new stuff throughout the week; therefore dividing my attention all week long. Now I can actually live my life with my family without that distraction.

Over the past couple of years now, I’ve struggled with my relationship with Facebook. I see now I used to put way too much thought into it.

Recently we had to go 4 days without Internet as we moved in the new house, and once I did finally check my Facebook, I realized I actually didn’t miss anything.

While Facebook is full of people I care a lot about, the overall emotional intelligence of status updates in my daily feed ultimately seems to clutter my life; not enhance it. I am choosing to pull the plug on my daily exposure to that large daily nose of negativity and sarcasm.

If I am thinking about someone I’m friends with on Facebook, I can go straight to their profile page on Facebook. That way I don’t have to feel compelled to rely on my “home” page to find out on what is supposed to be my social news for the day.

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I discovered the people I most wish to be like in my circle of friends are the ones who are the least active on Facebook and the most active with their families away from social media.

It’s true; I used to be much more involved with Facebook, as I attempted to be clever and engaging. These days, I suppose I’ve just moved on with my life.

Maybe it’s because this is truly the most settled I’ve felt since getting married.

For the first two years I was married, my wife was getting her Master’s Degree. Then once she received it, she got pregnant with our son.

Next we moved to Alabama to be closer to family and went further into debt; only to eventually move back to Nashville. After that, we had to completely work our way out of debt, other than our mortgage on our townhouse (while I studied for my certification for Human Resources). Finally, we were able tosave up enough money for a down payment on a bigger, more efficient house for our lifestyle.

Now that we’re in our new house, and not in debt, and having more quality time together as a family in our new suburban life, I am experiencing a feeling of completeness I haven’t previously known with my wife and son.

I’m thinking that now, I can just enjoy this new house with my family.

My Decision To Unplug From Social Media, Except On Thursday Nights (Including Facebook And My Blog)

So I invite you to tune in every Thursday night, when you can catch up with our new simple life. You don’t even have to go to Facebook; you could just subscribe to Family Friendly Daddy Blog by clicking on the button at the top of this page.

As for Friday through Wednesday, you probably won’t hear a peep out of me.

I’m sure certain exceptions will pop up along the way, but they will definitely be the exception to the rule.

But as it concerns my own personal schedule, I’m choosing to unplug from social media now, except for on Thursday nights.

So by default, I will definitely be participating in this year’s National Day of Unplugging on March 6-7, 2-15.

What’s the worst that could happen?

Or maybe the real question is, what’s the best that could happen?

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Dear Jack: The 1st Week Of Living In Our New House

4 years, 2 months.

Dear Jack: The First Week Of Living In Our New House

Dear Jack,

After closing on our house last Thursday night, we began moving in some of our things into our new house from our friends’ house where we had been living in between. Then Mommy and I took off work on Friday to prepare for the official move on Saturday.

I had been saying, and still am saying, that it’s important to keep my expectations realistic (meaning low) as we move in. I’m not expecting everything to work out perfectly.

Dear Jack: The First Week Of Living In Our New House

For example, they accidently forgot to install a power outlet in the closet where the cables are set up for Internet. So for a few days after moving in, we had to rely on Internet based on an extension cord draping down from the bathroom sink, running past the toilet, over to our closet.

The builder sent someone over to fix it after the weekend, as it’s covered under the one year warrantee.

Dear Jack: The First Week Of Living In Our New House

However, a few days later, the electrical outlet outside froze over, so we had to get AT&T and the builder over to get that all straightened out.

The weekend of moving, along with our first week in our new house, in had its share of predicted hiccups; like your new bed…

Dear Jack: The First Week Of Living In Our New House

There were absolutely no instructions in the box whatsoever!

Well, actually, some of the pieces had an “L” label on them for “left” and some an “R” for “right,” but only some of them were actually labelled correctly.

But in the end, Papa was able to figure out how to successfully build it anyway. He definitely has all those mechanical skills that I don’t.

Dear Jack: The First Week Of Living In Our New House

And while Mommy saved us over $700 by ordering our Roman shades offline for all our windows as opposed to hiring someone to install blinds, Papa and I learned just how finicky they are to install.

Something this week has taught me about moving in to a new house is, unless you hire professional movers (which we are too frugal to do), it takes a while to get settled in and set up.

Dear Jack: The First Week Of Living In Our New House

We finally have a 2 car garage, but right now it’s still full of unpacked boxes. I’m hoping by the end of the weekend we will have that taken care of.

So far, nothing has gone perfectly as scheduled, nor have things gone perfectly horrible.

Again, realistic expectations.

Love,

Daddy

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Infographic via: LivingDirect.com

Dear Jack: Our Visit To Pinewood Social In Nashville, Tennessee

4 years, 2 months.

Dear Jack: Our Visit To Pinewood Social In Nashville, Tennessee

Dear Jack,

Now that we’ve officially lived in our new house in Spring Hill for a full week now, I realize the importance of specifying what events take place in Nashville; which is 35 miles away from where we live.

Dear Jack: Our Visit To Pinewood Social In Nashville, Tennessee

With that being said, yesterday we went to the glorious Pinewood Social in Nashville.

We went to lunch with Mommy’s boss, his wife, and Grandma (Mommy’s mother) who is in town this week (from Sacramento) this week to help us unpack.

Dear Jack: Our Visit To Pinewood Social In Nashville, Tennessee

The way I would describe Pinewood Social is that it’s a classy, upscale, hip, “new Nashville” restaurant with a subtle 1950’s flare.

Dear Jack: Our Visit To Pinewood Social In Nashville, Tennessee

They even had vegan options for your Daddy: I had a Thai veggie sandwich; along with fried green tomatoes and fried broccoli which our table shared.

Mommy’s boss made a point to pull me aside to express to me how impressed he was that for the whole hour while we were at the table, you were perfectly behaved.

Dear Jack: Our Visit To Pinewood Social In Nashville, Tennessee

It’s moments like that where I feel confirmation in knowing that the way Mommy and I are raising you, with limited TV time and no access to artificial colors or flavors in food, is paying off.

(We didn’t really let you watch TV at all until you were 2 years old.)

Dear Jack: Our Visit To Pinewood Social In Nashville, Tennessee

You were simply content and behaved the whole time there at Pinewood Social, completely occupied by drawing pictures of our family on sticky notes provided by your new preschool you are starting next week.

Dear Jack: Our Visit To Pinewood Social In Nashville, Tennessee

Eventually, you caught a glimpse of the bowling alley, which is part of the restaurant. So you spent a good 20 minutes bowling, with the help of the kiddy ramp.

I was amazed you were able to pick up that standard size bowling ball yourself.

Dear Jack: Our Visit To Pinewood Social In Nashville, Tennessee

On your last turn, you got your first strike!

Obviously, we had a great time at Pinewood Social. I have a feeling you’re going to ask to go back…

Love,

Daddy

Dear Jack: Our Visit To Pinewood Social In Nashville, Tennessee

Understanding The Psychology Behind Gambling: New Infograph Included

Last week I published, Lottery Commercials Don’t Target People Who Are Good Money Managersin which I explained how I ultimately am not a target for those who advertise lottery tickets.

While I’m not personally opposed to a lottery, I feel I’m good enough at math and good enough at responsibly managing my money than to buy a lottery ticket on a regular basis.

I know that my chances of maintaining an overall better cash flow, for a permanent basis, depend on me having paid off my debts, saving and investing my money afterwards, and not playing the game of trying to impress people with faux status symbols, like leased vehicles; as I explained in A True “Status Symbol” Is A Paid Off One, Including Our New House (Which Is Not).

So I couldn’t help but notice that this infographic below, Psychology of Gambling, seems to back up why I avoid that particular mindset in my everyday life.

The infographic points out the illusion of control, the sense of reward, the excitement of chance, and our natural sense on optimism when gambling…

Or in my opinion, choosing to play the “American lifestyle game” in which we try to impress people we don’t care about with that things we bought with money we don’t have. (I sort of style that line from Dave Ramsey!)

Enjoy.

Infographic, courtesy of VegasSlotsOnline.com.

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Dear Jack: We Closed On Our New House Today (We Officially Bought It!)

4 years, 2 months.

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Dear Jack,

Yes, there are blue lines on your forehead in this picture. That’s because while Mommy and I signed the paperwork to “close on our house” (in other words, to officially buy it, closing the sale), you were busy drawing pictures with a blue pen on a note pad, as well as on your face.

Oh well, it kept you entertained for the 45 minutes it took to close on our new house.

You and I also had to officially inspect the house to make sure all the proper changes were made, based on our final inspection last week.

Dear Jack: We Closed On Our New House (We Officially Bought It!)

No problems there.

You and Pandy made sure everything was legit. For some reason, it was important for you to take with you some straw from our yard; I suppose as a souvenir.

After our closing, we walked over to Burger Republic to celebrate the official sale of our new home.

We made a “cheers” to our new life in our new home in Spring Hill. Here’s to life in the suburbs!

Dear Jack: We Closed On Our New House (We Officially Bought It!)

In many ways, it’s a sense of closure. Of course, by no means does this bring an end to the story of “Our New House.” As the cliche goes… this is only the beginning!

We still have to move in and get settled.

Actually, tonight while you were asleep, since we are still living with friends who were here in case you needed something, even though you didn’t… Mommy and I both drove separately with both our cars fully loaded; to get a head start on the official move taking place this weekend.

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Tomorrow will be your last day at your current preschool, as Mommy and I will be getting the new house set up, making some Lowe’s trips, and waiting around for the Internet to get set up; as well as for the delivery of the refrigerator.

Today, I have been thinking a lot aboutt his: Our first payment will begin in March; the month before I turn 34… Mommy turns 34 a few months later.

My realistic goal is for us to have this house paid off by the time Mommy and I both turn 50.

We’ll do what it takes to reach that goal, yet still have fun as a family.

And so it begins… here’s to life in the suburbs!

 

Love,

Daddy