Dear Holly: You Appreciate New Clothes the Way Your Brother Loves New Toys

2 years, 8 months.

LoDear Holly,

Your brother doesn’t have the ability to ever be excited about receiving clothes as a gift.

But it’s a completely different story with you.

Last weekend, Mommy presented you with the dress that was meant to be one to wear to church on Christmas Sunday; but we ended up not going that day.

So you got to debut your Christmas dress a few Sundays late. And you were so happy, and so proud, to be wearing it.

To you, a dress or new outfit is a toy. It registers the same in your brain.

Your Christmas dress happened to be one that Mommy found brand-new (and very cheap!) at a consignment store.

But it still had the tags on it, so it was completely new to you.

Look at you in your new dress. You are such a precious little girl!

Love,

Daddy

Dear Jack: Playing Hungry Hungry Hippos and Crossfire with Your Sister Before School

8 years, 1 month.

Dear Jack,

Two months ago, when I took you to Target so you could spend a $25 gift card you received for your birthday, I also invested in the classic board game Crossfire for our home.

It has truly served its purpose as a casual form of pick-up entertainment in our living room.

But this past weekend, you realized that there are some major similarities between Crossfire and Hungry Hungry Hippos.

So now, both games take up the real estate of our living room table.

I’m happy though. You and your sister even entertained yourself this week before school; alternating between the two games.

It’s like having our own little arcade in our living room!

Love,

Daddy

How Often Children Should Go to the Dentist

There’s absolutely nothing wrong with being a concerned parent. There are many dangers present in the world today, and so it is a good idea to be careful when you are taking care of the health of your child. “When it comes to dental care of your child, in particular, an early start and regular follow up is the way to go,” says a local Belltown dentist.

First Visit

To begin with, you should take your child to the dentist by the time he or she celebrates his or her first birthday. These first visits are crucial for the child because they get him or her accustomed to the dentist’s chair. As a parent, starting this early also gives you the opportunity to get educated on the best care for your child’s teeth.

In case your child is still on the bottle and hasn’t started to wake up in the middle of the night to drink or snack, you can wait until he or she turns two years of age before you take him or her to the dentist for the initial visit. Once you’re done with the first visit, the standard frequency is to take them for a checkup every six months.

Between 4 and 6 Years

A major milestone is that period between the ages of four and six. At this point, your dentist should take some X-rays to find out if there are any insidious cavities lying between the teeth.

After 6 years

From the age of six, your main focus should be on prevention. This is that age when the baby teeth start to shed and get replaced by permanent teeth. Your child’s dentist is highly likely to suggest a sealant at this point. This is a plastic resin that will bond the chewing surfaces of your child’s teeth and reduces the chances of cavities forming in these spaces. The resin blocks bacteria from getting in those spaces between the teeth and also the grooves and valleys in the teeth themselves. This will be necessary between the ages of seven and nine. The most likely site for such treatment will be the molars, which are especially prone to cavities.

Another thing that is likely to happen around this time, when the child is seven years old, is that his or her dentist is going to suggest an evaluation of the teeth, known as an orthodontic evaluation.

As for braces, the majority of kids won’t be wearing these until they get into their early teens, but that’s not what an orthodontic evaluation is for. The whole point of orthodontics is to modify the growth of the jaw. At this stage, the dentist will evaluate the skeletal origins of things like crooked teeth and correct them early on. By sorting these issues at an early age, the dentist will be able to ensure that your child has a beautiful smile later in life.

What matters the most for your child is the basics: make sure he or she brushes his or her teeth at least twice a day, flosses everyday and go for regular twice yearly dental checkups. Your children will thank you later in life for that beautiful smile on their faces.

Dads Secretly Take Their Sons to See PG-13 Rated Superhero Movies, Like Aquaman (But They Don’t Admit It On Social Media…)

At what age is it socially acceptable for a boy to go see a PG-13 rated superhero movie with his dad?

Follow up question:

At what age is it appropriate or okay for a boy to watch a PG-13 rated movie with his dad?

I think those are difficult questions to answer, and even dangerous to ask, because ultimately, each parent has their own standards on what they perceive as acceptable in raising their children.

And in an age where many people have traded in their fear of God for fear of a social media backlash thanks to ever-potential mob mentality of Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter, no one wants to have to defend their views to the 10% of the population who passionately disagreed in the comments section; and then have to follow-up with a token social media apology a few days later.

My theory is that many dads do take their sons to watch PG-13 rated superhero movies, they just don’t talk about it on social media because it may not be socially acceptable to broadcast it.

On certain issues, I am undeniably more conservative as a parent. But with other things, I am perhaps more liberal than people might expect.

I recognize that not all PG-13 rated movies are created equal. So to me, the movie rating is a bit arbitrary.

Fortunately, it’s as if there is now an unspoken rule that PG-13 rated superhero movies that have their own toy line have agreed to keep sexual content out of their movies. Instead, the PG-13 rating is earned from stylized action sequences; in other words, violence without blood.

There are also typically a handful of milder profanities thrown in these PG-13 rated superhero movies. Even though my 8 year-old son doesn’t hear his own parents cursing, I’m sure by now he’s learning the “bad words” from other kids at school.

Honestly, what bothers me more is my son hearing the casual use of “oh my God” in PG rated movies and kids’ sitcoms. To me, that phrase is breaking one of the Ten Commandments. Meanwhile, I’m supposed to be worried because my son hears an alternate word for butt or poop?

So as long as he knows which words he’s not allowed to say, as he gradually becomes aware of which words our society has given power of taboo, then I am not too concerned.

However, this is all simply my own parenting style.

This isn’t necessarily what the norm is. Maybe it is. I don’t know. Honestly, I’m not keeping up with what other parents are saying on the subject.

Or maybe they’re like me- they’re not admitting to taking their sons to see PG-13 rated movies; not because it’s inappropriate for the child, but that it’s inappropriate for the parent to admit it on social media?

But if it were socially acceptable for a dad to admit he took his 8 year-old son to see Aquaman this past weekend, I would use this opportunity that say that it was probably my son’s favorite superhero movie so far.

And knowing that he and I had quality time together this weekend doing something we both enjoyed- well, that makes me happy to be a dad.

Dear Holly: You Finally Have Your New White Bed

2 years, 8 months.

Dear Holly,

Right after we got your brother’s new bunk beds installed, you also got an instant upgrade.

You had been asking Mommy for a white bed, so she painted your brother’s old bed white and got you a new bedspread.

While all of that was taking place, Nonna helped take care of you. You especially liked hearing her read your favorite stories in her own rendition.

So you went from the final stage of your crib bed, to now, the big girl bed you will have for years to come!

You now have the bedroom of a nearly 3 year-old little girl!

Though I guess it’s just a matter of time before we end up having to paint the walls pink.

Love,

Daddy