Just Like the Uniqueness of Human Fingerprints, No Two People Share the Same Version of Reality

Is the integrity of “reality” compromised because it’s different for every person on Earth?

One of the subconscious questions that we movie watchers love to deal with is “What is reality?”  Maybe the main character was actually dead the whole time.  Maybe the whole thing was a computer-generated reality that took place centuries after the main character died.  Maybe the setting wasn’t really the 1800’s, but instead current day the entire time.  These movie twists are interesting because they reveal our fascination with the fact that “reality” is more of an idea and less of a certainty.  Even if most people agree that this world we all live in is indeed reality, there is still the afterlife (or “after reality”) to consider, which completely complicates and enhances the importance of reality.

These thoughts about reality, the meaning of life, and the afterlife are unavoidable at some point in life, for most people.  When someone we are close to dies, our thoughts have to at least consider for a few minutes what happens next for that person.  But even in its simplest form, it’s still difficult to grasp the fact that reality, if nothing else, is different for every person on Earth- and therefore, reality is a static thing, even if most of us agree what reality generally is.  So why is reality so different for each individual?

Sometimes when I read, I come across a quote that I wish I would have thought up myself.  Last week as I was reading Sex, Drugs, and Cocoa Puffs by Chuck Klosterman, hidden somewhere in the middle of this random yet organized book (page 169) I found this nugget of epiphany: “The strength of your memory dictates the size of your reality.”

For a guy like me who is arguably only a few notches away from being Aspergers, with a vibrant memory of details of my life all the way back to my 2nd birthday party in 1983, my obsessive habits regarding pop trivia, and my natural ability to memorize Wikipedia highlights, it could be said that if the above quote is true, then the size of my reality is pretty large.  But even if you’re not a walking Wikipedia like me, you still have used your memory to save meaningful information (like certain things you learned in your highest level of education, as well as social cues and expectations) along with meaninglessinformation (like who won the Super Bowl in 1997 or who Jake Pavelka chose on the finale of The Bachelor).  The purposeful along with the pointless are both mixed together along with memories from your life that for whatever reason are not forgotten.  These are some of the major ingredients that make up an individual reality.

But even if we can’t all share the same reality (which would be beyond boring), through our meaningful human relationships we can form a similar version of reality.  For life to have meaning, life must be shared: The more shared experiences people have with each other, the greater their shared reality is.  Our friendships, our families, our political affiliations, our religious organizations… they all help make reality a reality.


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My Prediction on Who Ali Fedotowsky Will Choose for the Finale, Plus “The Men Tell All”

Seriously, it’s my job to mockingly keep a count of how many times Kasey says “guard and protect your heart”, not Chris Harrison’s.

Currently stealing my thunder and my idea of the "Ali Tally".

The Bachelors did a good job of making fun of themselves and each other, like when Kasey sang a newly written song for Ali entitled “You Left Me on a Glacier” and when Craig challenged Justin to an olive oil wrestling match.  That means there’s not a lot for me to do here today as far as recapping.  But still, my job is to pick out the idiosyncrasies of the show, calling out its the subtle and almost hidden agendas.  And thanks to Justin, “Bachelor Pad”, Jessie Sulidis and Kirk,  I’m still able to do that.

America is supposed to equate this man with a Communist spy.

Agenda #1: Get everyone to agree that Justin did a bad thing.  What an easy target.  We’ve all already established what he did was stupid back when his final episode air, but just to make sure we realize that Justin committed a cowardly reality TV show crime, Chris Harrison gave anyone on set a chance to throw a stone at the memory of the three-timing Canadian wrestler.

Agenda #2: Advertise for the new upcoming trashy Bachelor spin-off called “Bachelor Pad”.  Of course it looks like something Fox would have aired circa 2001.  Needless to say, I will not be recapping any episodes of it, nor will I be tempted to watch it.  Chris Harrison told us it has everything that Bachelor fans want to see; more like everything Rock of Love fans want to see…

Agenda #3: Give Jessie Sulidis more unnecessary air time to attempt to kick-start her acting career.  (Her resume is all over the Internet.)

"Most Likely to Succeed in Being Picked as the Next Bachelor"

Agenda #4: Try out Kirk as the new Bachelor.  Same thing happened with Jake Pavelka on “The Men Tell All” last year.  He’s the only Bachelor they put in the “hot seat” without trying to embarrass.  Kirk was portrayed sympathetically as a guy who “got his heart broken on a journey to find love”.

My Prediction on Who Ali Chooses:

Call me old-fashioned, but I’m not a cheater.  While it would be pretty easy to find out Ali’s pick from some blabbermouth website with about 45 seconds of research, I choose to wait like the rest of the country until it’s officially announced next week.  From just nine short weeks ago, when I did my first recap for Ali’s season, here were my initial thoughts, as cited in Ali Fedotowsky the Bachelorette: Episode 1- Cowboy Boots.

Predictions of who will “win”, if anyone:

My wife- Frank

Me- Roberto

Our mutual runner-up: Chris L. from Cape Cod, Massachusetts

Well, if Frank wouldn’t have ended up already having an Italian girlfriend back home in Chicago, he would have obviously been the winner of this thing.  And while Chris seems like a solid choice, he’s probably more like the kind of guy who should be chosen as the next Bachelor, not end up with the current Bachelorette.  But since, as previously mentioned, the Bachelor producers have already decided that Kirk gets that coveted role, it looks like Chris will be left out in the cold.  Literally, in Cape Cod.

Roberto, with his soap opera good looks, will be the one Ali chooses.  And if I’m right about that, I will be quite amazed I predicted it right from the first episode.  If nothing else, I should give myself a pat on the back, for the right reasons, of predicting the Top 3 along with my wife.

But ultimately, it’s all meaningless.  While Ali chooses Roberto, I see it as a short-lived thing.  Like really short.  Maybe three weeks.  This is not a spoiler, just a gut-driven prediction.

If I’m wrong, my reputation as a writer is on the line and you’ll never read one of my recaps ever again.  If I’m right, then it means I’m really good at analyzing The Bachelorette and making accurate predictions.  In the words of the Simon & Garfunkel song “Mrs. Robinson”: “Either way you look at this you lose…”