5 years, 9 months.
It is important to me that the good and healthy relationship between you and your baby sister is not fabricated or superficial. I don’t want you to hear me saying to another adult, “Ah, he loves his sister and she loves him. They really love each other,” and then in turn you began fulfilling the script in an effort to please me.
Instead, I want to see true mutual love between you to; real and natural.
I have to say, my expectations have been exceeded greatly. You have yet to ever act intimidated by the attention she gets for being the cute little baby girl she is.
What I see instead, is that you are confident in yourself. You are not competing with her.
I say this because one of the first thoughts I had when Mommy and I learned that Holly would be coming, was, “I need to proactively make sure Jack gets enough attention since he won’t be the only child anymore.”
But honestly, it has yet to be an issue. You’re our Kindergartner boy. You are independent and assured.
Your identity is secure in being our firstborn son, not our baby girl. I see no struggle on your end for you to compete for your parents’ attention.
Just take a look at this picture I took of you and your sister before school. Obviously, you’re so proud to have her as your sister.
But just look at the way she looks at you.
That’s how it always is.
I can be on the living floor playing with her while Mommy is making dinner, but the moment she hears or sees you walking in from the other room, she immediately turns her attention directly to you.
She loves you. I think you need to expect her to look up to you from here on out.