It takes seeing bad acting to know what good acting is. Bad acting isn’t simply defined by an actor who conveys no emotion (Ben Stein). But there is a thin invisible line between a person who is a good actor (Johnny Depp, Tom Cruise, Paul Giamatti) and a person who simply plays the same character in every movie (Will Ferrell, Vince Vaughn, Arnold Schwarzenegger). Of course there are also the in-betweens (Adam Sandler, Ashton Kutcher, Robin Williams) that only seem to play the same character in all their comedies but in dramas actually become a different person.
But ultimately for an actor who has appeared in a string of successful/popular movies, the question of how good of an actor is, is irrelevant. It doesn’t matter. Because there is some unseen force that causes people to keep watching that actor’s movies. It’s not simply professional acting skills that audiences follow, it’s that invaluable quality of “I like this person”.
Friendships don’t grow just because of common interests. Now that I think about it, I’ve never made a conscience decision to be a person’s friend. It just happens. I never have to say anything like, “You’re cool. Let’s officially become friends.”
It starts with a few joking insults through text messages, leads to several Sunday afternoon Mario Kart Wii tournaments, and before I know it I plan a whole Saturday around rowing down the Harpeth River in a canoe with him, trying to forget about the movie Deliverance as we paddle our way through the quiet waters.
The “I like this person” quality transcends to romance as well. There is something extremely ironic about “Singles” events and groups. For my first year living in Nashville I attended the Singles Sunday School class at my church (around 80 in attendance) plus I went to Kairos (another Singles event every Tuesday night with an average of 1200 people). It seems with all those single-and-looking people in the same place with the same wishful thinking, it would be easy for people to match up. But that’s not where I met my wife. (A mutual friend unintentionally set us up.)
And when she and I started dating, I knew right away she was the one. Aside from all the obvious reasons I’m sure I’ve mentioned before, it was those subconscious connections we had that caused both of us to know right away that the search was over. The greatest occurrence of “I like this person” that I have ever known.
“We are all a little weird, and life is a little weird, and when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness and call it love.” -Chinese fortune cookie
The Invisible Touch, Yeah