Dear Jack: Reciprocating Your Sister’s Need for Affection

14 years, 9 months.

Dear Jack,

I feel like one of the themes of this summer is that you continue to reciprocate your sister’s efforts in wanting to be buddies.

What I am seeing is that now, instead of you seeing her as some sort of competition as your only sibling, you have begun to see her as an equal member of our family.

I see the way that the two of you now mutually choose to hang out around each other, like when we were at Lowe’s this past weekend.

Or when as a family, we were watching TV in the living room this week and I noticed that you both were sort of cuddled up together on the bean bag.

I love this!

Love,

Daddy

Dear Holly: Ramen for Lunch During the Summer

9 years, 2 months.

Dear Holly,

During these couple of summer months, it’s never a mystery what you are having for lunch each day. While I rarely ever take a full lunch hour for myself as I work from home, I do stop long enough to prepare your daily ramen noodles on the stove top.

Once I place your bowl of hot Ramen noodles on the counter of our breakfast nook, it is tradition that I pour a cup of milk for you to drink. Next, you fill up a cup of ice and use some tongs to place the ice cubes one by one in the ramen, until it is cool enough for you to eat without burning your mouth.

You then are able to enjoy your ramen lunch while watching SpongeBob on your phone. I love that you have your little lunch tradition everyday.

 

Love,

Daddy

Dear Jack: Our 4th of July Fireworks Entertainment

14 years, 8 months.

Dear Jack,

Carrying on family traditions is extremely important to you. Your entire life, you have always been drawn to the entertainment of fireworks on the 4th of July. We gave you a budget of $50 to spend on fireworks this year, to serve as the family’s entertainment.

The city does a really good job of putting on a fireworks show on July 3rd, which we watched from the parking lot of Grace Presbyterian Church. That was fun for our family to do for our 2nd time now, since moving here a little over a year ago.

Then on the actual night of July 4th, Aunt Dana and Uncle Andrew allowed us to host your fireworks show in their backyard.

The theme of your very own fireworks show was not about beauty. It was not to entice us spectators to look up in the sky and say, “ooh” and “aah”…

Instead, it was more like, “Look out!”, as pieces of cheap toy cars you were blowing up flew into the audience.

You definitely put on a show!

Love,

Daddy

Looking Back on 17 Years of Marriage

“Seventeen years is a long time to do anything. It almost seems like longer,” my wife observed in the car ride back home this past Saturday on our wedding anniversary. We had visited Mountain Escape Spa near Chattanooga, followed up with a fancy steak dinner at The Creag at McLemore Resort, then stopped by Mentone Market for dessert.

I agreed, “At a certain point, us being married became synonymous with life itself.”

From there, I explained my fascination to her that 17 years ago, at ages 27 and 26, we surely were completely different people; as compared to the versions of ourselves we would gradually evolve into over the years.

While we certainly are much more mature and “broken in” by now, compared to 2008, I am also able to identify that despite our “personality makeovers” which took place over the past 17 years, we are still fundamentally that same guy and girl we were back when we were mostly clueless.

It is so intriguing to me that the younger versions of us instinctively understood the psychology of our attraction; that having barely dated a year before we got married, and much of that being long distance, the 2008 versions of ourselves knew we were the right match for the long haul.

Looking back through pictures of us spanning those past 17 years, I can’t help but smile. Thank God those kids followed through with their intuition. They were right about each other.

We were right about each other.

Dear Holly: You Finally Ate a Taco?

9 years, 2 months.

Dear Holly,

Last week while we were on summer vacation, Mommy made tacos for dinner for us. What I didn’t realize was, despite being 9 years old and even having some Mexican ancestry, you had never eaten a taco before?!

So I made sure to document this historic event: Holly eats a taco for the first time.

Fortunately, you quickly confirmed you liked the taco.

So now in addition to the recently discovered sushi, as well as steak, we will now include tacos as a “new food” that you can eat.

To be fair, I don’t think I had a taco until I was about your age, when Taco Bell opened in our town.

Love,

Daddy