Dear Jack: Lawnmower Man

13 years, 9 months.

Dear Jack,

Having a lawn to mow is a new experience for our family. For the nearly decade Mommy and I lived in our townhouse, there was no lawn to mow. Then, at our house we lived in for nearly a decade before moving here to Alabama, the HOA paid a company to do that for all the residents in our neighborhood.

But now, we officially live on nearly an acre of land which we are responsible for mowing.

I personally have plenty of experience mowing the lawn while growing up as a kid. In college, I made money in the summers mowing lawns for people.

While I was definitely willing to get starting again by mowing our lawn, I’ve yet to have that opportunity, as you have so far proactively done it yourself each week… for ten bucks a pop.

I predict that next spring, we will invest in a riding mower. I’m guessing you’ll still get 10 dollars each time, even though the job will be a lot easier then!

 

Love,

Daddy

Moving to Alabama Helped Me Realize I Am an Extrovert

I have spent most of my life thinking I was an introvert. What furthered this thought process was how Nashville had become increasingly crowded each year I lived there, over the past 19 years.

It got to the point where I felt anger and rage at even the thought of having to do anything in downtown Nashville:

The traffic, the $50 parking, the drunken tourists riding pedal taverns while thinking they look cool, the fact that you can’t walk without strangers bumping into you. It made me feel invisible and detached; like I was Rob Thomas in the music video for Matchbox Twenty’s “Bent”.

To some, downtown Nashville may sound exciting and attractive, but to me, it made me believe that “I don’t do well in crowds” and even that “I don’t like to have fun.”

But now that I have moved back to Fort Payne, Alabama, I now realize the fundamental issue:

I am actually one of the most extroverted people around!

It’s not that I am introverted- it’s that I require meaningful relationships and in-depth conversations with people, on a daily basis.

I had a fever… and the solution wasn’t more cowbell.

The solution was to move to a smaller town where everyone knows everybody; or at least we all seem to know each other through a family member, through the church, or through the school.

My new “quiet life” is getting even quieter with each passing week that we further our way to the very bottom of the house renovations list.

A couple of weeks ago was monumentous. It marked the first time we were able to park both of our cars in our garage (due to the moving boxes finally being fully unpacked). Coincidentally, it also was the first week that I was able to successfully fit all of our garbage in the one bin we are provided (due to us finally getting rid of all those moving boxes).

These are little victories that I certainly celebrate.

This past weekend was a big deal for me too. It was the first Saturday where we didn’t have to recruit help from family to work on any kind of home renovation.

Despite us living just a few miles from a state park, the weather was a bit swampy and on the verge of rain. So it wasn’t a good day for a hike.

Instead, I pitched a brilliant (and equally stupid) idea to my brother-in-law, Andrew:

He had just played and beat the Super Nintendo game Super Mario World for the first time over the past few weeks. As for myself, I grew up playing the game and had beaten it multiple times all the way through; however, I hadn’t played it in at least a decade.

So I said, “Let’s do a side-by-side tournament to see who can get the furthest before we decide to stop.”

To ensure there were no distractions of other responsibilities, we set up shop at my parents’ house in their bonus room above the garage.

We made it an hour and 50 minutes before A) our eyes started hurting from straining at the TV screens and B) my mom began making lunch for us downstairs. Like Yogi Bear and Boo Boo floating through the air, making their way to unsupervised picnic baskets, we at that point shut down the fun factory in the name of food.

And that… is the right way to spend a Saturday.

My Mother-in-Law Came to Visit Our New Home in Alabama

In July, we spent our summer vacation on the Oregon coast; where we celebrated my mother-in-law’s 80th birthday.

Now, a month later, she spent some time at our new home in Alabama. She flew all the way out here from the Sacramento area, on the other side of the country.

I always enjoy her being around. She and I clearly both have the “can’t sit still” gene. We can certainly relate to each other.

As a passive viewer of every episode of every “house hunting” show on HGTV and Roku (because, you know, my wife…), I have always openly mocked the husband and wife as they say, “Oh, this would make a good space for entertaining guests…”

My immediate response to the TV is always, “Yeah right! You are not going to be entertaining guests! That’s just staged footage at the end of each episode that you set up for the camera crew and then you never have anybody over after that!”

I am quite passionate (and skilled) at heckling reality shows: “Really? You just conveniently saw three houses, made an offer on one that the two of you just happened to say the name of at the exact same time and then you were able to buy that house before somebody else made an offer?!”

Now that I think of it, why does my wife keep inviting me to watch these shows with her?

The funny thing is, the entire time we have been in the renovation process (which we are technically almost done with any day now), I have kept telling my wife, “It is very important to me that we host family and friends for meals together.”

So it makes me happy that we’ve already been able to do that, as we had my side of the family over while my mother-in-law was here. We are actually “entertaining guests”!

As I’ve said before, we are aspiring to live a quiet life here in Alabama.

To be able to have my mother-in-law fly across the country from her home near Sacramento to stay with us… to see her and my wife catching up on the back porch as the sun is doing down… that is the quiet life I came here for.

Dear Holly: Your Interest in Performing Music

8 years, 3 months.

Dear Holly,

Despite me giving your brother a standing offer to teach him how to play guitar, met by him continually choosing other hobbies instead, you will apparently be my child who actually shares an interest in performing music.

It appears that you and your cousin Darla have now formed a pop duo. (An official name has yet to be determined.)

She plays the ukulele while you take care of lead vocals. You both share the responsibility of songwriting.

I am so proud, and relieved, to know that at least one of my children will carry on the music legacy in our family.

Love,

Daddy

On My Wife’s 43rd Birthday, Looking Back on When We Were in Our 20s

As we still continue to “pare down” our belongings from the move to Alabama, I came across a stack of the customized calendars I would make for my wife and I each month to keep at our desks at work, back during the first decade of the 2000’s.

It’s funny to think that there were a couple of years before we were married, before I started blogging, running my YouTube channel, and regularly writing new songs, that I would instead use my creativity to craft monthly calendars featuring pictures of what we had done together the month before.

Today my wife joins me in turning 43 years old. (I’m 113 days older than her.)

It has been interesting to look back through these now “old” photos of us when we were in our 20s! I was 27 and she was about to turn 27 when we got married in 2008.

These calendars stopped before we ever reached our 30s; in the 2010s. Two reasons: One is because we became parents at age 29. The other is that I began focusing on my role as Parents magazine’s daddy blogger.

So much has happened in our lives since I stopped making these calendars. We lived through our entire 30s- and as of today, we are a third of our way through our 40s.

Through all the stress that came with putting our Tennessee home on the market this year, finding a new home in Alabama, and making the move across state lines, it’s really rewarding to be able to stop for a minute and look through these old pictures of us.

It’s like I’m able to see our lives together from a 3rd party’s perspective looking in:

“Wow, we’ve shared an amazing life together so far. This is really nice. We both made a really good choice when we chose each other back in 2007.”

Happy Birthday Jill!