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Dear Jack: You Decided You Need to Start Wearing Cologne Now

13 years.

Dear Jack,

Nonna and Papa came up to visit this weekend. It was inevitable they would naturally want to go shopping at Marshall’s and that you and your sister would want to join them.

It was apparent beforehand how this thing would work out: Neither you nor your sister would come back empty handed; as “early Christmas presents” naturally presented themselves.

Your sister was proud to get a pink pair of Crocs.

As for you, you have been quite focused on obtaining some Tommy Bahama Maritime cologne; as apparently, all your friends are wearing cologne now.

Sure enough, there was a gift set of the cologne that even came with a bottle of body wash and… aftershave.

You now officially wear cologne.

 

Love,

Daddy

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Songs I Wrote in 2023: “Enneagram 9” – 12th of 13

It took me most of the year writing my book to finally realize my actual Enneagram number is Nine. After I went back and rewrote my book accordingly, I celebrated by writing this song.

The point of view is me telling my wife that I now understand what she actually needs from me:

You never needed me to ever be by the book – You never needed me to ever give a frantic look – You only needed me to be your Enneagram 9 – You never needed me to take charge and be the boss – You never needed me to prophecy potential loss- You only needed me to be like I was in 2009 – Life got in the way there for a while – I repressed all my anger in a state of denial – Took a little time to thaw out – To reveal what was buried there underneath – When all I had to do was just show up, sit back, relax – That’s right – Just got to be chill and that will keep things from getting too real – You always saw me as your personal Paul Rudd – To shrug it off instead of feeling stuck in the mud – You only needed me to be your Enneagram 9 – You always saw me as your go with the flow – I never seemed bothered – If I was, it didn’t show – You only needed me to be like I was in 2009 – Don’t worry baby if the world’s gonna end – I’ll be your fellow passenger on this sinking ship – You only need me to be along for the ride

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Songs I Wrote in 2023: “That’s What Tom Petty Taught Me” – 11th of 13

Realizing it was 30 years ago that I started playing guitar and how Tom Petty’s music served as a major influence on my songwriting style, I easily threw together a song about it.

I am very proud of how this song turned out. Sometimes, it takes a couple of months for a song to come together. In this case, I wrote it and recorded in a matter of just a couple of days:

In the spring of ’94, I turned thirteen – I was practicing guitar chords while trying to sing – The best eleven dollars I had ever spent was a cassette tape of Tom Petty’s Greatest Hits – I was learning to fly into the great wide open – I was free fallin’, runnin’ down a dream – Oh my my, even the losers believe you don’t have to live like a refugee – That’s what Tom Petty taught me – Well it’s good to be king when you’re only thirteen thinking, “You don’t know how it feels to be me”- I grew up tall and I grew up right – Now it’s time to move on – Yeah, it’s wake up time – I’m gonna listen to my heart – No, I won’t back down – I’ve got a room at the top of the world right now – I’m still learning to fly into the great wide open – I’m still free fallin’, runnin’ down a dream – Oh my my, even the losers believe you don’t have to live like a refugee – That’s what Tom Petty taught me

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Songs I Wrote in 2023: “I’m in a Better Place Now” – 10th of 13

I feel that this song is evidence of the major milestone I reached this year, as I ultimately served as my own psychiatrist through the process of writing my Enneagram book.

This song presented itself as I was encountering my darkest, deepest stage of ego death:

Someone tell me why I think it’s gonna be okay – I’m at peace with all the mysteries I can’t explain – If ignorance is bliss then I want more of this – Is this a glimpse of what it’s like to see life as a gift? I’m living comfortably in the uncertainty – I’m not taking things way too seriously anymore – I’m in a better place now – I’m climbing my own way out – This is what a good day looks like – Things are gonna turn out all right – Will I still feel this way tomorrow? Is it even up to me? Can I keep my head in the clouds and look around without something pulling me down to the ground? I’m in a better place now – Something tells me that God is smiling down on me – I’m at peace with who I am now and what I believe – If He is love I guess I’ll trust it works out in the end – Is this a glimpse of heaven when we all begin again? I choose hope over meaninglessness – I choose faith over being a nihilist – I admit I could spend my life believing the wrong thing – But if God isn’t real, my search to find Him still led me to a better place

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Songs I Wrote in 2023: “Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs” – 9th of 13

I am of the small minority of the people who have ever lived in the entire history of the world to actually reach the top of Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs pyramid. Not to mention, I got here despite not being extremely wealthy or famous.

Therefore, it is difficult for others to relate to me in my existential crisis that I have been working through for the past several years.

Writing this song helped me at least to better understand what I have been feeling:

Halfway through my life is when I realized I did everything I wanted to do – But I am still alive – I still have so much time and clarity – Roaming the halls – I feel like I am lost in a maze – Somebody help me down from here – So I won’t be so lonely at the top of the pyramid – Like if Super Mario jumped over the flagpole and the game went on without any goals – No real obstacles – Nothing to run from – Nothing to run towards – Can I transcend myself? – Is that the next step? Do I move beyond self-actualization? Who can I teach from this? Who has a crisis where I can be of service?