I recently compiled the world’s first official Top 10 List of Masculine Traits in Men.
My list is a reflection of what society as a whole deems as important to the overall definition of masculinity. That’s not to say a woman can’t have these attributes, but I am presenting a theory that when a man is the opposite of one of these traits, it typically serves as an indication that society will see him as less masculine to some degree.
With no further ado, here is my list of the Top 10 Masculine Traits of Men; which are not necessarily listed in order of importance, as I believe that part can depend on the individual man himself:
1. Confident (believes in himself)
2. Respects Women and Helps His Fellow Man (loves others as himself)
3. Finds Identity in His Unique Skill Set (is aware of what he’s good at)
4. Healthy and Active (eats right and exercises)
5. Decisive (can make a quick decision even when it’s tough one)
6. Committed (especially to family and career)
7. Leader (knows how to manage and motivate other people)
8. Good Communicator (can make complicated concepts seems simple)
9. Funny (knows how to use humor as an effective social tool)
10. Emotionally Intelligent (doesn’t wear his heart on his sleeve, nor does he keep all his feeling bottled up inside)
Ultimately, the fact I created this list is proof that I am a masculinist with a masculinist mindset. After I Googled the term, I learned that “masculinist” can be an adjective or a noun. I identify more with the adjective (“characterized by or denoting attitudes or values held to be typical of men”) than the noun (“an advocate of the rights or needs of men”), as I’m not worried so much about the rights or needs of men.
Instead, I enjoy serving as a spokesman for what masculinity is all about. I am proud to represent husbands and fathers from a positive point of view, which I feel is rare in media.
Being masculinist is not the opposite of feminist. I am for equal rights, and in favor of catering the needs of both women and men, acknowledging there are some exclusive differences.
I celebrate women. I celebrate men.
It’s just that I know a lot more about being a man.