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What Kids’ TV Shows Do Your Kid Love That Really Annoy You?

March 2, 2013 at 11:24 pm , by 

2 years, 3 months.

Dear Jack,

Since Mommy and I officially began allowing you to watch TV when you turned 2 a few months ago, you have had several temporary favorite TV shows.

It began with Sesame Street, then Thomas & Friends, and right now you’re pretty much stuck on repeat with the All About… series, featuring Hard Hard Harry, as he teaches you all about monster trucks, fire trucks, and bulldozers.

I’m cool with all that.

But as we scroll through the “Just For Kids” section on Netflix live streaming, you’re starting to request…Barney & Friends.

You have been occasionally watching Dinosaur Train, which is a non-annoying show. It has opened your mind to dinosaurs, but unfortunately, you happened to get curious about that big purple dinosaur too.

So I just need to come out and say it. I have a low tolerance level for Barney the purple dinosaur.

He sounds like a slightly more sober Krusty the Clown impersonating Pee Wee Herman.

I apologize in advance for any possible bravado which might reveal itself here, but to be completely honest from my fatherly perspective, Barney just isn’t the normal masculine type of character you typically choose to entertain yourself with.

Sesame Street has ugly monsters, some of which have slightly intimidating Eastern European accents.Thomas & Friends make expensive messes and crash all the time. Hard Hard Harry introduces you to big noisy machines…

Barney, on the other hand, well… I just can’t get past all the giddy jumping in place along with that voice, which I constantly find myself mocking.

On top of that, I just don’t find it to be realistic or educational enough for a kids’ show, compared to the stuff you usually want to watch. With that being said, I definitely won’t tell you no when you want to watch Barney.

I will say this, though. This afternoon you crawled up in my lap and wanted to watch three 30 minute episodes of Hard Hard Harry. That’s the longest you’ve ever wanted to watch TV in one setting; plus, it’s the longest amount of time I’ve ever let you watch TV.

(My butt fell asleep half-way through, and when I said that out loud, it really confused you.)

The way I see it, it takes a good 90 minutes of learning about boats, helicopters, fire trucks, and monster trucks from Hard Hat Harry to make up for the 8 annoying minutes of Barney you watched this morning.

Assuming that other parents are also annoyed by some their children’s favorite TV shows, I presented this question on The Dadabase’s Facebook wall today:

“What kids’ TV shows and movies do your kids just love that really annoy you? My answer: Barney.”
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  • Waleska Torres Same here lol
  • Samantha Smith Kitchenman Caillou…there aren’t enough bad words to describe it! Abbey Grace has still never seen Barney because I will literally jump over the couch to turn the channel before it comes on!
    8 hours ago · Like · 3
  • Amber Archbold Timmons Caillou drives me nuts too. His laugh is like nails on a chalk board.
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  • Alexa Wiviott Caillou. Ugh.
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  • Sarah Nee Dora the Explorer. Hate that show! My daughter would love it if she knew it existed.
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  • Jessi Jones I agree with Caillou, also Toopie and Binou
  • The Dadabase Now I’m curious what Caillou is…
  • Samantha Smith Kitchenman Caillou is an innocent looking 3-4 year old (depends which season you are watching) who has no hair. At first you watch the show and think, this is sweet and cute. It has cute songs and a good family dynamic: married parents, he has a younger sister, a cat, good neighbors, and grandparents live nearby. You can watch it a few dozen times off and on and still think it’s sweet and cute but then you learn the evils of it. Caillou is a constant whiner. And I do mean constant. This is one area that I didn’t think about when my 1 year old was just starting to like it. As she grew to a 18 month old-20 month old, she thought, “Hmmm…maybe I should cry like Caillou and I’ll get my way!” There are certain episodes that we can’t watch because she mimics his whining as if she is up for an Oscar! We still watch it from time to time and sadly, I know all the episodes so I can screen them for the least whiney ones. And for some reason the cartoon doesn’t feel the whole screen and personally, that annoys me! She has the doll and the books and they are much better than the silly cartoon. The doll doesn’t talk and we give Caillou his voice so he is much less whiney when we read
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  • Becky Uthe Max and Ruby and WordWorld
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  • Amber Archbold Timmons I agree with Max and Ruby also. Ruby is so bossy it drives me nuts. And where are their parents?! The only adult figure I’ve seen in their lives is their grandma that stops by on occasion!
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  • Amber Archbold Timmons My daughter is now 4 years old. I really like Ruby Gloom right now. It doesn’t get on my nerves and I actually like the cartoon. I think it is for slightly older kids than my DD but she is into that kind of stuff and Scooby Doo as well.
  • Christina Gorski Sid the Science Kid.
  • Julia Harvey I hate Wubbzy, yo gabba gabba, and Dora. I used to hate Diego too, but my son loves it so he’s broken me down. Max and Ruby is annoying and I’ve often wondered about their parents also. I like the Bubble Guppies which is my sons favorite. Catchy songs and fun stories. We also watch Mickey Mouse Clubhouse, of course, which isn’t that bad.
  • Evelyn Garza My son loves chuck and gabba. I really like yo gabba Yo Gabba Gabba. As far as disliking, probably max and ruby because max literally says one word the whole episode.
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  • Amy H Gerwig Yo gabba gabba!
  • Jericho Williams Dora the Explorer

 

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I Fakebook Daily And I’m Not Ashamed To Admit It

March 1, 2013 at 10:50 pm , by 

2 years, 3 months.

Dear Jack,

A blog post on a Jewish parenting website went viral this week: “We Need To Quit Telling Lies On Facebook.”

It’s no surprise that since being published on February 25th, the post has already received 86,137 likes on Facebook and 611 comments.

This is because the author, , crafted an extremely clever, well-written, relevant article pointing out the potentially pretentious, yet edited-to-appear-familiar lives that we modern parents display on Facebook and social media:

“My life on Facebook is an airbrushed and Instagrammed image of my real life… I give everything a hipstacular filter to make the drudgery look interesting.”

She’s right the way she describes what she calls “Fakebooking,” even down to the part about making it look all we do in our free time is hang out in coffee shops.

I laughed when I read that because it seems like 25% of the stock photos I use of you are taken at a downtown coffee shop on a Saturday morning.

My preference is to present vague photographs of you, causing the viewer to try to subconsciously imagine the story behind the picture. Granted, I always correct the lighting and round off the corners, to help with the pre-fab nostalgic feel.

In other words, I am a living stereotype of what she describes. I am very self-aware of my condition. I Fakebook every day. Actually, I am the worst offender of Fakebooking I know!

However, I have no plans to ever stop.

Technically, as  as puts it, I’m guilty of telling lies by omission.

It’s just that I choose to remember mainly the best parts of life and scrap the rest in my mental junk folder.

I don’t need a reminder of all the frustrating parts about my life. However, I think I do need a reminder of the good stuff.

So what I present in social media, as a parent, is typically edited to serve as a public scrapbook of the way I choose to remember my life personally and privately.

I emphasize the warm and fuzzy… the encouraging and redemptive… the random and quirky.

Meanwhile, I downplay the dark and depressing… the discouraging and doubtful… the boring and predictable.

Still, I feel there is nothing actually fake or deceptive in my presentation; just carefully polished and illustrated.

It’s like comparing the book version of The Lorax to the movie version.

As I mentioned earlier this week in “Facebook Status Updates About Men Who Cheat,” it’s very easy to find negative drama in the comments of my Facebook news feed. But for every comment that tells of a cheating boyfriend or husband, there’s a super positive comment by someone else is who is humbly bragging (oxymoron?) about how they have the best boyfriend or husband in the world.

Fakebooking helps balance out all the chaos in social media; for me at least.

I believe that the version of life we see is the one we choose to see. Like John Milton, the author of Paradise Lost coined it, “The mind is its own place, and in itself can make a heaven of hell, a hell of heaven.”

Sure, I Fakebook daily. Or maybe I’m just choosing heaven over hell, everyday.

 

Love,

Daddy

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Generation Y Parents Vs. Marissa Mayer Of Yahoo

March 1, 2013 at 11:30 am , by 

2 years, 3 months.

Dear Jack,

A really weird news story that has been trending for two weeks now is that Yahoo CEO, Marissa Mayer, announced to her employees that she will be banning them from working remotely, starting in June. This didn’t go over well, especially with moms who have been working from home.

Things got even more interesting when it was revealed that Marissa Mayer paid to have a nursery built in her office, so she could bring her toddler to work with her.

There’s no need to point out the obvious double standard here.

As a Generation Y parent, I am especially intrigued and provoked by this story. It’s because Generation Y parents live by a unique work ethic.

Dr. Randall S. Hansen, founder of Quintessential Careers, published an article called “Perception Vs. Reality: 10 Truths About The Generation Y Workforce.” He helps shed some light on why Marissa Mayer’s decision especially rubs a raw nerve with parents of my generation, born in 1981 and beyond:

“Generation Y is the first generation to expect — from day one — employers to realize there is more to life than work. Just as many Baby Boomers are now discovering later in their careers, Generation Y sees work as a means to enjoy life — and life comes first. They have a strong work ethic — just not in a 9-5 sort of way. Generation Y wants work to be fun and flexible because the line between work and life is seamless. (In other words, there is no such thing as work-life balance because it’s all just one thing.) Generation Y also follows a mantra of working smarter, not harder.

The key for employers is offering flexible work schedules, adjusting the belief that workers need to ‘put in the hours at the desk’ to be effective, and developing a work culture that is pleasant and positive.”

So for any Yahoo employees, this news about no longer being able to work from home is not cool. But it’s especially an insult to those who happen to be parents aged 32 and younger.

Something I have personally observed about Generation Y in the work force, is that we’re not good about keeping our mouths shut when we spot an obvious double standard. We have an (unrealistic?) expectation that our superiors should go by the same restrictions they place on us.

No eating lunch at our desk? No texting during work hours? Fine. Just don’t let us catch our supervisors doing those same things.

Because as Dr. Randall S. Hansen goes on to explain in ”Perception Vs. Reality: 10 Truths About The Generation Y Workforce,” Generation Y has been raised to question authority:

“While some people refer to this cohort of people as Generation Why for a reason, it is not so much an issue of a lack of respect for authority as much as it is that this group has been raised by their parents to question everything and raise questions when they don’t understand something.

This generation is very independent and not afraid to challenge the status-quo. Many in Generation Y want a relationship with their boss like the ones they have with their parents. It’s not that these folks have little respect for authority; on the contrary, they feel employers do not respect them.

The key for employers is realizing that asking questions can often lead to answers and solutions that are actually more efficient and effective. Unlike with any other set of workers in the past, employers must also provide more autonomy — and trust Gen Y workers to complete the work.”

I’m curious to see how my Generation Y mindset will affect you as my son. I am proud to be a Generation Y parent. I think you and I are going to have good, open and honest communication.

As for ever hearing me say, “Do as I say, not as I do,” well forget about it.

Question me as your dad and I will be glad to you give you an answer that is not “just because.” Learn by my lived-out examples, not just my words.

It’s very important to me that I’m a good dad… I associate that with my Generation Y work ethic.

 

Love,

Daddy

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Dads Matter To Kids: Socially, Mentally, Physically, and Academically

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What This Daddy Blogger Would Love To Make Taboo

February 26, 2013 at 11:10 pm , by 

2 years, 3 months.

Dear Jack,

I missed the Dad 2.0 Summit this year; which is basically the official annual conference for daddy bloggers.

Conveniently, The New York Times published an article on their website a few days ago, which does a great job of filling me in on the conversations that took place there without me.

While I wish I would have known about Dad 2.0 Summit beforehand, because I totally would have flown out to Houston to been a part of it as I am now marking my calendar for next year, at the same time it sort of sounds like the main takeaway from Dad 2.0 is the same point I have been writing about for years now on The Dadabase:

Dads don’t want to be seen as idiots who make messes and who are sub-par parents.

It’s subtle, yet very present in media. I feel that there are still too many companies getting it wrong. Allow me to critique the Robitussin commercial featured at the top of this post, for example.

Of this 17 second commercial, the first 2 seconds are done right.

We are introduced to a mom and dad who are together putting their baby to sleep. They lovingly look at each other as if to mutually say, “I love you and our new addition to our family.”

But then, from 0:03 to 0:06, the dad coughs, waking the baby and earning a frustrated and disapproving look from his wife. By 0:07, we see the dad give his wife a pat on the back right before he walks away to go grab some Robitussin for his cough, seen from 0:10 to 0:12.

There is some resolve by 0:13, when the dad returns, this time not coughing, as the mom is able to lay down the now sleeping baby in the crib.

Okay, so that commercial wasn’t horrible, but it needs some revisions to earn the respect of dads like me.

If they had to make it to where the dad coughs and wakes up the baby, he could have appeared to be less of a [jerk] if, when he came back from taking the Robitussin, he took the baby from his wife, allowing her to go back to bed, then putting the baby to sleep himself.

When you really consider the role of the dad in this commercial, all he really did besides just stand there, was that he made life  harder for his wife.

And seriously, pause this commercial on 0:05. Check out the look on the wife’s face…

No husband ever wants to receive that look from his wife.

Like I said a month ago in “All I Ever Wanted Was To Be A Dad,” Said Few Men Ever, as your dad, I gain a lot of confidence and self-worth by knowing that I am doing a good job of supporting you and Mommy.

But when I see a commercial like this, I am not offended, but I do think, “There’s just another dad-bashing commercial feeding into concept that the housewife desperately needs another product because of the mess her husband made.”

Part of my passion as a daddy blogger is attempting to make it taboo for dads to be portrayed as the classic idiot in ads. I’m not even asking to be seen as the hero. I’ll take neutral at this point.

 

Love,

Daddy