If we’re being honest, Facebook is an open mic, public stage in which we present the best parts of our lives to those in our social circle. I have no shame in admitting that.
Chances are, the most relevant thing you scroll your Facebook feed for is pictures of your friends’ and family members’ kids. And I would also predict that most of the “likes” and comments that you receive are based on pictures you post of your own kids.
Yeah, that magical red notification that alerts us of confirmation that some part of our life is being mutually acknowledged and appreciated…
But are we all somehow hypocrites for choosing to highlight the most exciting and interesting parts of our lives? Does that make us all fake? Would we all be better off if instead, we also included the mundane parts of our lives?
For example, should I update my status right now so everyone can know that it’s time to clip my fingernails? Is that something you would want to know about?
If so, then you are very easily amused… right? And if you “liked” status comment about me needing to clip my fingernails, I would assume that if you are not desperate for distraction from real life, that you were just give me a “courtesy like” to make me feel good about myself.
The thing is, we don’t want courtesy likes, do we?
Instead, we want to know and believe that the people in our social circles authentically “like” what we place in front of them.
So naturally, presenting our Facebook friends with our best material is what we all do. We certainly don’t want to use everyone else’s Facebook feed to advertise the most negative parts of our own lives; we would appear emotionally needy in that case.
We all want to be liked for good things about ourselves. We all want to be included by society. To a certain (and healthy) degree, we care about what people think about us. I say that’s a good thing.
I am not a hypocrite for using Facebook as my highlight reel. And neither are you.
So I will keep posting the highlights of my life on Facebook. So will you.
And that’s completely okay.
This is 36.