Planning Valentine’s Day: 5 Steps for Husbands (And Dads)

February 3, 2012 at 11:20 pm , by 

14 months.

Alright guys, you don’t need my help here. You knew what it took to get her to fall for you in the first place. I’m assuming you’ve already begun brainstorming on how to make this Valentine’s Day special for the love of your life and the mother of your child.

So today I’m just here to offer up a few more decent ideas to throw into the mix, or remind you about, as V-Day approaches us. Here’s what I say about making Valentine’s Day special for her:

Keep it simple, thoughtful, and unique.

1. Buy a miniature cake from the grocery store for the two of you to share. They cost around 8 bucks and are essentially the equivalent of buying two of those trendy $4 cupcakes; which wouldn’t be a bad idea either. Chances are, she will be charmed by your “fun” and “cute” idea of throwing together Valentine’s dessert.

2. Pick up a special drink and serve it in champagne or wine glasses. Whether it’s your wifey’s favorite wine, cider, gourmet beer, or even just sparkling grape juice. The idea is to bring a touch of fanciness and class; yet so simply.

3. Personalize her Valentine’s Day card. I just did a more detailed article on this alone, but for now, what matters is that you write more than “I love you” on a 99 cent card. This is a great opportunity to reaffirm how you feel about her with words that will potentially stick around longer than the words spoken every other day. Seeing something written in black and white really has staying power.

4. Get her a sugary treat for later. It doesn’t have to be a box of chocolates. Maybe she prefers Twizzlers or Jelly Bellies. This aspect is like the stocking stuffer of Valentine’s Day. Plus, it’s just nice to have something leftover for the next day she can enjoy while she’s at work.

5. Oh yeah, the flowers. Honestly, I never spend a lot on these. The important thing is that you have them to display in a vase on the counter or table. Flowers are important because they last about two weeks longer than Valentine’s Day itself.

Notice how none of my ideas involve spending a lot of money or require too much effort.

Simple, thoughtful, and unique. That’s the man plan for Valentine’s Day.

Not to mention, by default, you’re teaching your son how to be romantic and/or your daughter what she should expect from a guy you would approve of someday.

Image: Man and woman as a happy couple together, via Shutterstock.

This Dad’s Love/Hate Relationship with American Pop Culture

February 3, 2012 at 6:34 am , by 

14 months.

It’s amazing how much I don’t care about celebrities, yet I can tell you that Lady Gaga’s real name is Stefani Joanne Angelina Germanotta, that Russell Brand is 6′ 1″, that John Mayer is half Jewish, and that Beyonce is from Texas.

I don’t want to know how many girls Ashton Kutcher cheated on Demi Moore with or who Jennifer Aniston is currently dating.

Yet by proximity, I sort of do know these things because I am somehow constantly in the Thirty Mile Zone, exposed to the essence of all this useless knowledge about famous people.

Funny enough, the 2nd most popular article last month I wrote was the one talking about how I will not be watchingThe Bachelor with Ben Flajnik.

We all know that school teachers are some of the hardest working people in America, yet their earned income doesn’t support this concept. Meanwhile, the sports stars, actors, and artists we worship get paid by the millions.

The irony here is that while our government is ultimately responsible for paying our school teachers so relatively little, we as a society decide that athletes, actors, and musicians are worth the money they earn when we pay to be entertained by them.

I would love to believe I honestly don’t get all caught up in celebrity hype. Yet I think back to a few years ago when I happened to be at Whole Foods while Keith Urban and Nicole Kidman were having lunch there.

Where was I? Along with others who were trying to inconspicuously take a picture of them with their cell phones. But the picture was “for my wife.” She’s a big Country music fan…

That event showed me that I was still willing to contribute to the habit of A) worshipping famous people and B) degrading them to spectacles, rather than just another married couple that  happened to be eating lunch that day in an organic grocery store.

I’m not okay with worshipping rich and famous people.

Instead, I want to sincerely honor, both inwardly and outwardly, the people in the world who are great examples to us all. Not the people who have become millionaires by entertaining the world, but instead, the people who best demonstrate what it means to love your neighbor as yourself.

As a dad, I want my son to see that it’s the non-famous people in our lives who are most important.

It’s the people who don’t simply entertain us, but the ones who also motivate us and challenge us to become better human beings. The ones who give us direction. The ones who love us unconditionally. The ones we can never truly impress or disappoint.

Sounds like right now I’m describing the way I feel about my son. I am, actually.

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Spotlight on Dads: Jimmy Oliveira, A Giant NY Giants Fan

February 1, 2012 at 6:33 am , by 

14 months.

Jimmy Oliveira, a New York native, recently won the National Center for Fathering’s “Super Dad” Super Bowl contest. He received tickets for himself and his seven-year-old daughter, Gina, to attend Super Bowl XLVI.

They are both “giant” New York Giants fans who have a Sunday tradition of going to church and then rooting for the Giants. According to Gina, they “eat, live and breathe Big Blue” and have been attending the opening Giants game every season since she was 18-months-old.

Obviously, I jump at the chance to honor dads here on The Dadabase. I can tell that his daughter Gina is the light of his life and I wanted to hear him talk more about her, so I asked him a few questions about fatherhood:

What has been your biggest challenge so far as a dad?

“My daughter is amazing so there aren’t too many challenges, but one thing we seem to have a hard time with is keeping up with all of her extracurricular activities. Gina is very involved with activities such as dance, gymnastics and jiu-jitsu, and sometimes it can be challenging to get her to all of her activities on time.”

What is your favorite quirk about your daughter’s personality?

“Gina is very outgoing and knows exactly what she wants. She’s also very honest, and can sometimes be very blunt, but I love that about her. She is straight up about everything and tells it exactly like it is. With these personality traits, she has become a leader in her classroom, and I’m so proud of her for that.”

How do you most see yourself in your daughter?

“I see my personality a lot in Gina. As mentioned before, she can be very blunt but yet truthful, and that is exactly how I am. We are both very outgoing and motivated to get what we want out of life. Gina is not afraid to say how she feels, and I think that is something she has picked up from me.”

Congrats to Jimmy for winning the National Center for Fathering’s ‘Super Dad’ Super Bowl contest. And for his and Gina’s sake, good luck to the NY Giants this Sunday!

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