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How Is The “3-Year-Old Look” Different Than The 2-Year-Old’s?

December 19, 2012 at 12:11 am , by 

2 years, 1 month.

Dear Jack,

Mommy and I couldn’t help but notice the consistency between random strangers’ comments when they see you in public.

They either A) comment by saying, “Wow, you’re a big boy!” or B) they assume you’re 3 years old instead of 2.

I’m intrigued by this phenomenon. Why do strangers, and even my co-workers who see your pictures hanging up at my cubicle, assume you’re a year older than you actually are?

It might be assumed because of your size, but here’s the thing, kid: You couldn’t be a more average-sized 2-year-old boy. The doctor confirmed at your 2 year check-up that you are in the 50th percentile for height and weight.

As I’ve explained before, you’ll grow to be about 5’8”, which is double your current height of 34 inches.

Could it be that you “act older?” Maybe, but your vocabulary doesn’t seem to reflect that of a 3-year-old.

Maybe it’s that these random strangers don’t have daily access to a 2-year-old boy, to know what’s normal. Perhaps it’s been a decade or so since they were exposed to the accurate size and behavior of a 2-year-old.

This may seem like the strangest reason, but maybe it’s simply your hair that makes you seem older.

Mommy and I have been keeping your hair cut short on the sides and back; ever since you were just a few months old. We decided the default chili bowl haircut just wasn’t for you.

So whatever it it is, possibly even a combination of all the explanations, I have a feeling you will continue looking like you’re a year older than you are. Granted, your skin is as wrinkle-free as Ryan Seacrest’s, but you just have the look of a 3-year-old; whatever that is.

I’m really curious to know: How can you really tell a 2-year-old from a 3-year-old if they’re not standing right next to each other? Observe your 3-year-old friends at daycare tomorrow and let me know!

 

Love,

Daddy

 

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Breaking Scientific News: 2-Year-Old Zoologist Discovers Missing Link

December 18, 2012 at 12:08 am , by 

2 years, 1 month.

Dear Jack,

I had always imagined your first favorite movie being a Disney classic. However, Disney classics have been late to arrive on the scene of Netflix live streaming, soCurious George 2: Follow That Monkey! it is.

How could it not be your favorite? Curious George, The Man in the Yellow Hat, and a circus elephant named Kayla accidentally travel across America in, of all things, a train!

I have now watched Curious George 2: Follow That Monkey! somewhere around 17 times, but never all in one sitting. The same goes for you.

What I like best about us watching the movie together is when you observe out loud the relationship between Curious George and The Man in the Yellow Hat:

“George and his daddy are on the train!… George’s daddy is sleepy!… George’s daddy rides the bike!”

In other words, you perceive that The Man in the Yellow Hat is Curious George’s biological father. So that makes George like a half-boy, half-monkey missing link.

It’s sweet of you to associate their relationship to a real father and son. You observe the kind ways The Man in the Yellow Hat treats Curious George and relate it to how I treat you.

Granted, I’m reading between the lines on that, but I’m pretty sure that’s what you’re doing.

I have a feeling that a lot of little boys think the same thing about Ted Shackelford (A.K.A. The Man in the Yellow Hat) being George’s Daddy.

Likewise, I bet there are plenty of dads (and moms) out there who think their own young son reminds them of a curious little monkey.

I think about how often when we are together, you say “Daddy hold you.” That’s my cue to pick you up, like a pet monkey, as you wrap your arm around my neck and we take a walk, exploring the world.

You’re my monkey. I am the Man in the Yellow Hat.

 

Love,

Daddy

 

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The Obligatory Facebook Picture Of Your Kid With Santa

December 16, 2012 at 10:05 pm , by 

2 years, 1 month.

Dear Jack,

Yesterday Mommy and I took you to the Bass Pro Shop to get your picture made (for free!) with Santa. Despite our low expectations about how you would react, it went very well…

We were first in line, out of hundreds. More importantly, to my surprise, you didn’t cry.

Granted, I warned/prepared you all week:

“Jack, do you want to meet Santa on Saturday? Do you want Santa to hold you?”

Your response was always a grunted version of yes.

The more I thought about the concept all week, the more I realized how going to meet Santa Claus is sort of…peculiar.

There is no other situation where parents encourage their kids to sit on a stranger’s lap and get their picture taken.

At best, it compares a little bit to Halloween; how parents take their kids around the neighborhood peddling for candy. Under any other circumstances, that would never happen.

Still, I think going to visit Santa is a very cool and memorable thing.

Something that especially stood out to me when we met Santa at the Bass Pro Shop is that the last thing he said to you was “I love you.” And he said it like he meant it; like a grandfather would say it. He said it like he was waiting for a response.

I think about all the children who went after you in the Santa line. Not all of them hear “I love you” from a father figure as much as you do.

So here it is; this is the obligatory picture of you with Santa that I shared on Facebook. You may not remember it happening. Either way, I’m sure we’ll be back at Bass Pro Shops again for your Santa picture next year.

 

Love,

Daddy

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Happiness Is A By-Product, Not A Destination

December 16, 2012 at 4:17 pm , by 

2 years.

Dear Jack,

In the capitalist nation we live in, with its nearly inseparable culture, we have this habit of always finding a new level of happiness, only after we have reached the goal we had been aiming for up until that point.

Just like Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs theory explains, happiness will always elude us as long as we chase it.

However, if we can find a way to be content with what we already have, then happiness becomes a by-product of the integrity of that lifestyle.

Yet at the same time I recognize my personal need for a materialistic goal to inspire me to work harder. Strangely, mine is a Jeep Wrangler.

Actually, you and I both have a bizarre infatuation with Jeep Wranglers.

It all started several months back when Jeep Wranglers became one of the first vehicles you could identify by name. Despite being completely content with my Honda Element that I drive you around in, I had never really noticed how, at least here in Nashville, it appears that for every 10 vehicles on the road, one of of them is a Jeep Wrangler.

Yesterday at Target I helped you, or maybe I should say you helped me, try to find a 97 cent Hot Wheels or Matchbox model of the white Jeep Wrangler with a soft top we both fantasize about the most.

(Maybe it’s because somehow they remind me of Imperial Walkers from The Empire Strikes Back?)

Turns out it was a bust. Jeep Wranglers, like fire engine trucks, are not easily obtainable in small die cast form.

After Mommy heard about us catching a case of “Jeep Fever,” now she’s on board too. It could be something as subliminal  as a Jeep Wrangler most aligning with the culture of our family’s lifestyle: simple and classic, yet low-maintenance, rugged, and even a bit quirky.

So as your dad, I’m caught between the realization that happiness is a by-product of being content with the simple, yet privileged life we already lead as a middle class American family, and the fact that I am motivated by money.

As I spend 40 hours a week working my real job as an Employee Relations Specialist, then 12 hours writing material for The Dadabase, then on top of that, studying at least 5 hours preparing for my HR certification, it helps knowing that all this work is going towards growing my career opportunities…for our family.

Sure, it’s a paradox. All that really matters is spending time with you and Mommy, yet most of my time I have to spend working.

That’s why when the three of us are all awake, I make sure the time we spend is quality time.

Of all the life lessons I will be teaching you, perhaps the truth that “happiness can’t be chased” is one of the hardest for me to consistently teach by example.

But I can’t show you that we’re already happy with what we have now, I’ll definitely never be able to show you if we ever get more than we have now.

 

Love,

Daddy

 

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Praying For Your Young Child, Beyond Their Safety and Future

December 15, 2012 at 11:08 pm , by 

2 years.

Dear Jack,

I recently realized something: I haven’t really been prayingspecifically for you. Instead, I’ve been mainly just lumping you in with our family.

Subconsciously, I keep asking myself, “What else should I pray about aside, from his safety and that he will have a bright future? He’s only 2 years old.”

That’s pretty much all my prayers for you have been about: Your safety and your future.

But beyond that, on a daily basis, what else do I want for you? What should I ask God for on your behalf?

I’ve been thinking about this all week and I guess the thing is, until I take the time to write it down, I won’t know the answer.

It’s like I get so used to the habit of praying ad-lib style, that I hardly take the time to map out my thoughts and translate them into prayers.

So while this prayer will surely evolve as you grow older, here’s my prayer for you for right now:

“Heavenly Father, thank you for my son Jack. Please protect him from harm and give him a bright future.

As for his interactions with others today, I pray that in his young age as he is developing his skills to communicate and share, help him to love others as himself.

Let him be a friend today to those who need a friend. Let him be encouraging, strong, and yet still humbled.

Bless him as he learns today about colors and shapes, words and numbers, and all Your creation in between. I pray He will see Your truth in this life and that he will see Your love through me.

Lead me today, as I lead him. I pray in Your name, amen.”

The obvious thing I can’t help but think about as I see this prayer, is the last line. Jack, it’s true you are both a gift and a responsibility.

Sure, the older you get, the more responsible for yourself you will become. But as for now, I am overly mindful of the role I play in your life.

I don’t take my role as your dad lightly. Therefore, I’m very deliberate in how I raise you. That includes how I discipline you, communicate with you, entertain you, engage you, and teach you both small and important lessons in life.

The light doesn’t just one day switch on, and suddenly, what I do as your dad suddenly starts really mattering.

I’ll do my best for you, Son. So help me God.

 

Love,

Daddy