The first question was, “When you are two going to get married?
Then, “When are you going to have a baby?”
After that, “When are you going to have another one?”
From the time our son was about 1 year-old, until he was about 3 and a half, that last question was in heavy rotation.
So then, being the family friendly daddy blogger that I am, I began addressing the fact that my wife and I could easily be the couple that only has one child.
The reality of the two of us working full time in a major city got in the way of the concept of us having many as 4 kids; something we had at one point talked about, years ago.
So I began explaining here on my blog that the two of us could truly be happy with just one child; even if that wasn’t normal.
However, my wife and I mutually realized recently, “It’s been a long time since anyone has asked us if we’re going to have another kid.”
Our son will turn 5 years-old next month. By this point, people have stopped even wondering if we will “have another one.”
(That’s a funny phrase to me; “have another one.” I think of those Russian nesting dolls, called Matryoshka dolls.)
Of course, I never said we wouldn’t have another child. I simply made it clear we would be happy and content with just one; if that’s how things ended up.
I guess to a lot of people that comes across as, “We’re not having any more kids.”
On the contrary, I’ve mentioned a couple of times already this year here on Family Friendly Daddy Blog that we’ve never been more open to the idea of expanding our family, as I prefer to say it; than we are now that we are financially settled and moved into our new house.
But still, people gave up and stop bothering to ask. After all, having over 5 years in between kids is a lot of time.
It all comes down to us, the parents, being ready on all fronts; plus, being physically able to conceive a child.
Most families can have kids 2 or 3 years apart, and that works for them, culturally: Having 2 in diapers at the same time.
Culturally, for our family, especially at this point, having a Kindergartner and an infant sounds more our speed… if that’s how things ended up.