Will his recent humiliation humble him for good? We keep on waiting. (Waiting.) Waiting for John Mayer to change.
In November 2009 when his new album Battle Studies was released, I wrote a review that in essence said the music itself was solid as always, but the man John Mayer himself was becoming increasingly annoying and obnoxious (read it here http://wp.me/pxqBU-fj). But I have the ability to separate the art from the artist. I believe John Mayer will always make music that I love, but can he ever get over himself?
I remember a simpler time, in college, circa 2002, when I ironically thought to myself as I was in the check out aisle, “How weird would it be if John Mayer was ever on the cover of these tabloid magazines? What if he dated famous stars like Jennifer Aniston?” It was such a foreign thought regarding the fresh-on-the-scene musical Wonderboy.
So it obviously was a huge case of déjà vu when this random thought from just a few short years earlier became a reality. And with his rock star status came a major case of “I’m too sexy for my cat”. That brings us to the year 2010.
The once funny and personable musician began to realize that the general consensus of him is that he is the current textbook definition of a douchebag, even more so than Spencer Pratt, who held that title for 2008. Realizing this, and trying to shrug off his undesirable reputation, he acknowledged the public’s perception of himself in the December 2009 issue of Details magazine, yet still ended up saying this:
“I’m in the place of greatest freedom right now- not giving a f—… I don’t have f— you money… I have ‘that’s my seat’ money’ “
Ultimately, his attitude has seemed to be: “I’m John Mayer. I’ve got the talent, money, fame, and women that everyone else wants. Oh yeah, and I’m clever and witty too. See?”
It didn’t seem like he really cared or wanted to change. He just wanted people to stop desecrating his name.
Then came the interview with Playboy magazine. To sum it up, he’s gives his biggest “kiss and tell” list ever as he sexually degrades the women he’s been romantically involved with, makes a remark about his romantic disinterest in African-American women, and uses the “N-word” in the process. That’s the PG summary. Here’s a more detailed recap, not the actual interview: http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/35334100/ns/entertainment-celebrities/
Not quite the same mindset as his hit song, “Daughters”.
Soon after, he apologized on Twitter. And last night here in Nashville he broke down on stage in the middle of “Gravity” (appropriate song choice) with the most sincere apology and acknowledgement of his self-centeredness: http://wonderwall.msn.com/music/singer-john-mayer-breaks-down-on-stage-1537819.story?GT1=28135
It’s one thing to be a rich and famous womanizer, but even worse to acknowledge it, then brag about it while trying to appear sophisticated, in the public eye.
Now only time will tell whether the musical prodigy/media addict will return to the 2002 version of himself. The guy that knew how to keep his stupid mouth shut. The guy that seemed to narrate my life the way the TV show The Wonder Years did when I was a kid. The only other guy I knew who was equally obsessed with the year 1983.
No need for us to collect all of our John Mayer recordings and burn them in the city square like disgruntled fans did with The Beatles when John Lennon said they were bigger than Jesus, or when Natalie Maines of The Dixie Chicks said they were ashamed of President Bush. I still believe in the guy, as a person, that he can get through this by getting over himself.
Back on his first album, Room for Squares, John asked the question: “Will you love me when I’m not myself?”
Yes. Yes, John, I will. But I hope the real you is the 2002 version, not 2010.
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