March 21, 2014 at 9:11 pm , by Nick Shell
3 years, 4 months.
In the past two letters, I shared with you what makes kids happy, from a scientific viewpoint. I’ve really enjoyed learning about this stuff.
Today’s letter is obviously particularly relevant to you and me.
I will admit, if this information weren’t scientifically backed up, what I am about to say might sound totally biased, but I read all about it an article inLiveScience, as well as seeing it referenced in “The Science Of Raising Happy Kids” infographic at the bottom of this page:
“Feeling loved by dad was even more important for kids’ wellbeing, happiness, and life satisfaction than feeling loved by Mom.
The most effective dads listen to their kids, have a close relationship with them, set appropriate rules, and give freedom when it makes sense.”
Maybe I’m alone here on this, but there are certain days when I feel like I don’t really matter so much; that I’m a chauffer and a dishwasher… like I’m a stage hand.
Your emotional attachment to Mommy is so obvious. As for your emotional attachment to me, the dad… not quite as obvious.
For most of my life I had functioned in a way that I needed confirmation that I was doing things right in order to feel confident.
However, I’m past that point in my life. That started changing about the time I got a real job… but even more so once I became your daddy.
But obviously, it’s still encouraging to learn that you feeling loved by me is an important of your wellbeing, happiness and life satisfaction.
It helps me to be more positive of a person, which is something I’m working on, to know that the things I already do (listen to you, have a close relationship with you, set appropriate rules, and give you freedom when it makes sense) are actually paying off.
Hey, I won’t argue with science.
Infographic featured courtesy of Happify:
Read the entire What Makes Kids Scientifically Happy series: